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Perhaps before you even realized you were pregnant, people commented on your "glow". Pregnancy brings out a woman's natural beauty, and while the weight gain and growing belly may be frustrating, take this opportunity to enjoy the sexy and wonderful things that happen to your body. It's less work than ever to get some of the looks you have been working for anyway! That natural skin's glow is because your body is working overtime on blood production to have enough for two. To keep that glow looking great, it's important to keep your skin moisturized every day, and to exfoliate one or two times a week as well. This will enhance the natural glow and prevent splotchy spots from showing.

Make sure to keep wearing sunscreen as well. Your face (and the rest of your body) need protection from the sun's rays. Not just during pregnancy, but it's more important with your sensitive skin.

Now that your body is pregnant, it seems everything is growing, besides that belly. Your hair may be growing quickly too. Now is a time to practice with a new hairstyle (keep in mind once baby's born low maintenance is best, but now is time to have fun!). If your hair is long, go bold with a short cut. This will make your eyes and face the focus of attention. If your hair is short, it won't take long to let it grow out so you can have fun with the clips and braids.

When considering a new color, use caution in your choices. Some doctors advise against coloring your hair since the harsh chemicals can be absorbed into your skin. It is more advisable to highlight your hair so that the color doesn't touch your scalp. Another options would be to use a vegetable based hair dye, which has less chemicals than the old fashioned types.

Your breasts will also be growing, and your new bust line can be a source of attractiveness. If you haven't really worn low cut tops, go for something that shows your cleavage just a little. Make sure that you have a well fitted bra that lifts your breasts as well, so they aren't resting on your pregnant belly. This will make your breasts and your belly more attractive.

Ah! Fingernails are experiencing a surge in growth as well. This is wonderful, except that it seems your nails are growing faster than your polish lasts. While pregnant, consider going with a clear or very faint polish – or perhaps even just a buff to make them shine. This way it won't be as noticeable when your nail polish chips.

The natural look is very in style right now. Keep your nails semi-short with a squared off tip with rounded edges. Your nails will be stronger than usual and won't chip as easily when you are pregnant.

If you treat yourself to a manicure, simply add a top coat every second day to make it last longer. When you go back, you can save money by doing a simple polish change. This is a lot less expensive than doing a full manicure, and it's a great way to keep your polish updated.

With your beautiful belly, you will want to accentuate it with some simple maternity clothes. Your belly is a fashion statement in itself, so you don't have to shop for loud and crazy outfits. Go for simple, straight lines. Accentuate with some nice pieces of jewelry or a scarf to give some visual impact to your outfit.

This means you have to spend less on maternity clothes – and trust me. No matter how much you think you need a new outfit the last two weeks, save your money for postpartum shopping. Having basic clothing makes it easier to dress up when you are sick to death of wearing the same thing for three months!

Stretch marks are an inevitable result for most women during pregnancy. While some women seem to avoid this problem, they can become severe for others. There are several products you can use that are good at keeping stretch marks at bay. Read up to find which product will work best for you. Palmers Body Butter and Bio Oil are two good options, you just have to make sure to apply it religiously once or twice a day. Beginning before stretch marks show will be the best, but both products are said to help alleviate them even if you wait.

Being pregnant is such a short lived treat. Even with all the inevitable aches, pains and physical changes, your body is beautiful because it is performing a miracle. Stop to consider how wonderful it is that your body is designed to create and nurture the tiny miracle that will come out after a few short months. Enjoy every moment of your pregnancy, and don't be afraid to feel sexy and beautiful as you flaunt that new baby belly.

by Jennifer Shakeel

One of the most devastating things that can happen when you are pregnant is a miscarriage. A miscarriage is what happens when a mother loses a pregnancy in the first 20 weeks of gestation, if you lose the fetus after 20 weeks it is considered a preterm birth or a still born. All of which are terrible and can be devastating to any expecting mother. Note I say mother, not woman as many places will say. I decided to use mother based on my own experience with a miscarriage.

For those of you that have read my other pregnancy pieces know that last year I had a very long and sometimes difficult pregnancy which resulted in one of the most precious little girls I have ever known. What many may not know that it took my husband and I over a year to conceive and we had a miscarriage along the way.

The doctor that I had at the time completely dismissed it. He told me that I probably wasn’t pregnant at all, and that it was just a heavy period. However, my husband and I had been trying for a long time, and that time… we had taken 4 different pregnancy tests over a week…each of which were positive. Then I got influenza, had a temperature of 108 and was miserable. I felt cramping… and there was a lot of blood… but it wasn’t just blood. Now, with my first child I bled throughout the beginning of the pregnancy, but this was different and that is what I told the doctor. Who then proceeded to blow me off and we took a urine pregnancy test in the office and it was negative. I passed out on the way out of the office, my husband and I in tears… devastated.

It wasn’t until I was pregnant again, and going to a new doctor and a Geneticist telling them both what had happened that the doctor looked at me and said, “You were pregnant,” the geneticist explained what had probably happened and we looked at whether or not it would happen again. You have to know this, 90% of miscarriages are unavoidable. There is nothing you can do to prevent them. According to the Geneticists, more women probably have a miscarriage and don’t even realize it because it happens so soon after the egg is fertilized. They look at it and just think that they are having a heavier period than normal.

The majority of those miscarriages are due to chromosomal problems in the fetus, and they typically have nothing to do with you. There are also miscarriages that take place due to external factors such as malnutrition, infection, stress, maternal trauma, or drug and alcohol use. It is important that you know normal activities such as sex, working out, nausea and vomiting or lifting heavy objects do not typically cause a miscarriage unless you are high risk. It is important that if you are trying to get pregnant or suspect that you may be pregnant that you talk with your doctor as soon as possible.

The majority of miscarriages, regardless of cause, happen between the 7th and 12th week of pregnancy. And if it is going to happen there is nothing that anyone can do to stop it. When we were pregnant again after the miscarriage, we had a number of very scary moments when it seemed as though we would lose this baby as well. Frantically calling the doctor, she would get on the phone with me and tell me, that if it was going to happen, there wasn’t anything that they could do to stop it. Then I would be sent for an ultrasound to see whether or not we were still pregnant.

With this last pregnancy I had 7 ultrasounds. Four of them within the first trimester, it was the second one that I had that was the worse… the tech wouldn’t tell us anything and we didn’t see the little flutter (which was the heart beat) and when I asked if everything was okay, her response was “We aren’t suppose to say anything, you have to wait for the doctor. “ Immediately to me, as a former nurse, that meant something was wrong. She couldn’t find the heartbeat, so she went to get someone else to come in and try. I couldn’t even look. I couldn’t be more gracious to the second tech, who was able to find the heartbeat and happily report the fetus was fine.

“Somewhere between 10 and 20 percent of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage. In many cases a woman may have a miscarriage without even knowing she was pregnant. It is estimatent of all fertilized eggs are lost.” (http://www.babble.com/miscarriage-pregnancy-health-causes-risks)

Just because miscarriages are common, does not mean that they are easy. It is okay for you to feel emotional, a sense of loss and be sad. It’s important that you talk to someone about the way you are feeling, and talk with your medical professional about your risks.

Biography
Jennifer Shakeel is a writer and former nurse. As a mother of two incredible children, I am here to share with you what I have learned about parenting. One of my children has ADD, our journey of learning to come to terms with the diagnosis and figuring out what works best for us has been a challenge and a joy. Our son was diagnosed about two and half years ago, and we have had our ups and downs, joys and sorrows. If I can just offer you one day of hope or one idea that may work to help you and your family then I know that my purpose has been fulfilled.

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A birth plan is a written document that helps a woman expresses her desires for labor and delivery. It does not guarantee that nothing unexpected will happen, but creates a plan for all involved to make this the experience that the mother feels will be the best for herself and the baby. You will share what you write with the birth team that helps in labor and delivery. When you write your birth plan let it reflect some of your personality, what your hopes and plans are, how you feel about the birth. Your birth plan strategy is not just a laundry list of what you want but is a way for everyone to work together.

Before you start writing your birth plan you will have probably read a lot about childbirth and the experiences others have had in delivery. You should put the things that are most important to you about the birth at the top of the list, or underline them or use a highlighter. Once you have a satisfactory list, type it or write it neatly. An example of things to include would be a wish to avoid drugs, and an epistemology or you may say that you wish to be able to walk during labor. Sometimes we do not get all we want, but if, for example your number one priority is to not be separated from your baby after birth, and that happens, you have had a successful birth.

Whether you are a first time parent, or this is a second or third pregnancy, you probably have some idea about what you want from the delivery experience. The birth plan strategy is the place that you can write that you want a natural birth, with minimal or no drugs. You may also specify that you do want medication, and which ones are acceptable. When you make these decisions before labor begins, you do so with a clear mind. The written birth plan speaks for you when you are too busy to speak during contractions.  Always be aware that a delivery can go in unexpected directions, and make it clear that you understand this. The birth team is not your opponent, you will want to be certain that they understand that you know that they will do their best for you, but sometimes things are different than what you planned.A good time to write your birth plan written is around the second trimester of your pregnancy, so that you are ready just in case you have early labor. There are a lot of questions to consider. The written birth plan strategy allows you to state that you want your partner by your side, or not. It speaks for you when you cannot speak yourself. It reduces the possibility of forgetting something that is very important to you. When you focus on the issues that are important to you, even if your labor goes a totally different route than you planned, you can still feel good about the labor and delivery if attention is given to the things that you feel are important.

The concept of a written birth plan has come out of the natural childbirth movement, but it is in no way limited to mothers seeking natural childbirth. It is a place to specify who is included in the labor room, what procedures are okay. If it is not a first pregnancy, and you were not satisfied with your first child birth experience, write a birth plan for this pregnancy. Are you planning to have a C Section? A birth plan is still useful. You can specify that your partner or coach may be with you during the delivery. If you would like you may request that your new baby be placed immediately on your chest, or stay in the room. The birth plan allows you to clarify for yourself what you are expecting from your birth experience.

Your birth plan is not a legal document, and if things go wrong and there are unexpected issues, it may be that it will not be followed. By writing a birth plan you know what is important to you and your unborn child.

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by Jennifer Shakeel

Today’s purses are bright and cheerful.  These large hold all, carry all bags are inexpensive and you can buy them anywhere. Stores like Target, and Kohl’s, Wal Mart and Macy’s have rainbows of pouches and purses. Their vinyl, PVC and faux leather surfaces wipe clean with soap and water, they resist spills, and you can have one to match every outfit, and every pair of shoes. These purses have great appeal to young and old. Unfortunately, they are slow killers.

Purses have joined the ranks of toxic consumer products, along with painted toys from China and play jewelry for children.  A recent report from the not for profit Center for Environmental Health states that these bags, when tested, have levels of lead up to ninety times higher than the federal limit for lead in paint. This is a frightening finding for women, and their children. The lead is used to preserve colors and softness in purses and wallets that are sold in many national chain stores. Out of twenty one outlets in California, sixteen had contamination that exceeded the level required for labeling under Proposition 65.  The colors that showed the highest levels of lead are yellow, and yellow tinted colors, such as green and orange. ABC News reports that H&M and New York stores are working to address this problem and pull contaminated purses from their shelves in California.

Although we do not think of purses and billfolds as being something that we put in the mouth, the obvious route of ingestion, lead contamination is being detected in high rates on the clothes these purses rub against, and in things that are carried in the bag, like lunches, and children’s toys.  Lead rubs off of these purses onto the mother’s hands, onto their kids’ hands and the hands go straight to the mouth. Women have dangerous levels of lead showing up in their system, in their bones and in blood tests as well. This is a health hazard for women of all ages and for their families.

Our first concern needs to be for pregnant women and women who are breastfeeding. During pregnancy lead has been shown to transfer from the mother to the fetus. When a woman is breastfeeding, due to an increased need for calcium, the woman’s bones can break down. At that point, lead that has been stored in the mother’s bones during her lifetime leaches out to the bloodstream with the calcium. This increases the exposure of the infant brain to lead. The young immune system has no barrier to protect the brain from the lead that it is exposed to during gestation. This exposure can take place during the entire pregnancy, as well as during lactation.  Lead exposure in infants and children has been shown by studies all over the world to cause learning disabilities, violent behavior, and mental retardation. Children have enough difficulties without adding environmental poison.

Adult exposure to lead has been shown to contribute to cognitive disorders, and is destructive to the kidneys and causes increased risk of heart disease. Some scientists believe lead contamination could be linked to other diseases like Alzheimer’s and ALS.  Is being fashionable worth these potential health risks? We need to think about how we can avoid lead exposure in our daily lives.

The final word is to avoid vinyl bags. Carry leather or cloth bags. There are many colorful canvas bags on the market in all sizes. If you do carry vinyl bags and wallets, be sure to wash your hands after handling them. Do not give them to your child to hold or play with. Do not carry your lunch in vinyl purses. Hopefully other states will follow the lead of California at removing the bags from the market.

News of this health risk seems to have been reported as early as April 2009. Dianne Sawyer featured a news piece about it on January 22, 2010 on an ABC news program. It is time for all consumers to be made aware of these risks and the measures that they need to take to avoid them. When the demand for these products diminishes, then the supply will be reduced as well. Meanwhile, take the measures that you can to protect yourself.

Biography
Jennifer Shakeel is a writer and former nurse with over 12 years medical experience.  As a mother of two incredible children with one on the way, I am here to share with you what I have learned about parenting and the joys and changes that take place during pregnancy. Together we can laugh and cry and rejoice in the fact that we are moms!

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When you are pregnant and preparing for baby, there are several things most parents do to get ready. Expectant parents spend a lot of time preparing baby’s room, dealing with insurance, increasing or getting life insurance and taking parenting classes. However, many don’t spend any time at all preparing their marriage for the arrival of the baby.

Countless parents (if not all parents) will tell you their marriage changed dramatically after the birth of the baby. Many of these changes are good, but some are not. In some cases, the relationship gets neglected or there is not consensus in parenting decisions and responsibilities. This often breeds resentment.

In fact, for many couples, children aren’t cited high on the list in terms of marital fulfillment. A survey conducted by the Pew Center and reported in The Washington Post showed that children aren’t at the top of the list in terms of a successful marriage. Factors such as faithfulness, sex, household chore distribution and economic issues were listed ahead of having kids as a feature of a successful marriage.

There are a few things you can do to prepare your relationship for children and to avoid the pitfalls of adding parenthood to the dynamics of your relationship. One important step to take is to pay attention to each other. It is unbelievably easy to neglect each other once your day becomes about breastfeeding, diaper changes and getting baby to sleep. It takes concentrated effort to stay connected to each other.

One way many couples deal with this is to set regular date nights. The frequency can vary from once a week to once a month, but it’s important to spend time away from the baby and focused on each other. While you are still pregnant and don’t have to line up a babysitter, start the tradition of regular date nights. It will be easier to continue it after the baby is born.

Since issues such as chore distribution and economic factors rank high on the list of marital satisfaction, pay attention to these areas. In terms of chore distribution, it is common for mom and dad to be at odds. In some cases, the husband feels that since his wife is home all day, it is her job. This isn’t entirely realistic with a newborn in the house.

In other cases, the woman works during the pregnancy and returns to work after the baby is born. Surveys have repeatedly shown that women continue to do the lion’s share of the housework, even when they work full time. This may be the result of patterns from families of origin being repeated in the marriage. Both situations can breed resentment in the wife.

You can avoid this pitfall by discussing chore distribution before the baby is born. Be honest about your expectations and come up with a schedule that is agreeable to both partners. Having these details ironed out in advance is the best way to avoid one spouse feeling angry and resentful later.

Do the same with economic issues, parenting philosophies and other hot button issues. Spend time discussing the finances and how they will change after the baby is born. Create a budget and determine how money will be spent together. If you have different ideas about infant care, spend time reading and talking about it while you are still pregnant. This can avoid dissatisfaction and disagreements later.

Many people experience night sweats. This is a symptom associated with menopause, thyroid conditions, obesity and pregnancy. Genetics plays a role in the tendency to sweat at night. If you experienced night sweats prior to pregnancy, you may be more likely to have problems when you are pregnant. Make sure you consult with your health care professional.

How and when night sweats are experienced during pregnancy varies widely. Some women have an occasional episode and wake up soaked with sweat, but sleep uninterrupted most of the time. Others have problems frequently, particularly in the first and third trimesters when hormone fluctuations are most common. For some, the problem is resolved when the baby is born. For others, night sweats may continue in the weeks after the baby is born until the hormone levels gradually return to normal.

Causes of Night Sweats

Hormones are to blame for most of the discomforts and changes in pregnancy and sweating at night is no exception. Lower estrogen levels cause the hypothalamus to function improperly. The hypothalamus is a section of the brain that is responsible for regulating the body’s temperature. Normally, it responds to changes in temperature and releases excess heat in the body through sweat on a hot day.

During pregnancy, changes in estrogen levels can mistakenly be read by the hypothalamus, causing more heat to be produced by the body. This results in sweating to release the heat. The physiological process is similar to what is experienced by women in peri-menopause and menopause.

The biggest problem for women is that night sweats interfere with sleep. You may wake up sweating or shivering because your pajamas are wet. If the sweating is severe, you may need to get up and change your pajamas, or even the bed sheets. This is not only inconvenient, but robs you of precious sleep time.

Minimizing Night Sweats

There are a few things you can do to reduce night sweats. While you probably won’t stop sweating completely, you can take steps to minimize it for a better night’s sleep. If the room is warm, it will make night sweats worse. Turn down the thermostat, open a window, use a fan or turn on the air conditioner, depending on the season and climate where you live.

If you sleep bundled up in blankets and warm pajamas, the heat won’t be able to escape and you will sweat more. Wear lightweight pajamas in a cotton material to help you stay cool. Don’t pile on the blankets. Cotton sheets and light blankets are better for regulating your body temperature and minimizing sweating. Some women find that taking a cool shower at night and then slipping into light pajamas helps to reduce sweating.

Because the heat is coming from inside your body, changes in your sleep environment will only get you so far. But, if you can minimize the sweating – even a little bit – you will get more rest. Keep a fresh nightgown, a towel and a glass of cold water next to your bed. When you do wake up, you will have what you need to quickly cool down and get back to sleep. The goal is to take care of the problem without waking fully, so you can fall back asleep as quickly as possible.

The hypothalamus regulates sleep cycles, in addition to body heat. Getting enough rest is important for proper function of the hypothalamus, as well as the rest of the body. Try going to be at about the same time every night and go to bed early. Pregnant women should be getting eight hours of sleep each night.

Diet and lifestyle factors can contribute to night sweats and making some changes could help minimize the problems. For example, a sedentary lifestyle can increase the severity of night sweats. Conversely, regular exercise supports general health and helps to regulate hormones and the function of the body. This can reduce the frequency of hypothalamus malfunction.

Certain foods can contribute to night sweats, such as spicy foods, alcohol and caffeine. Pregnant women shouldn’t be drinking alcohol anyway, but avoiding caffeinated beverages and spicy foods before bedtime may help to reduce the amount of sweating you experience during sleep.

Sugar is another potential source of problems. Sugar increases the metabolism, which causes the body to generate more heat. Eating sweets before you get ready for bed could trigger the body to create more heat and then release it when you are trying to sleep.

Finally, just as some foods can contribute to night sweats, others can reduce them. Soy is one food source that has been shown to reduce the symptoms of menopause. The soybean is known as a plant estrogen. For this reason, women in peri-menopause or menopause sometimes increase soy consumption.

by Christine Kenney

When expecting a new baby, one of the most discussed issues is whether to go with medication or to have a natural delivery.  For years, the epidural gained popularity as births became a pleasant experience.  Recently however, the trend has leaned  more towards natural childbirth.  Why is this happening, and what are the benefits to going natural?

Women who decide to attempt a natural childbirth experience have usually done some research.  While medication can make it easier initially, here are a few reasons to think about going without.

FREEDOM OF MOVEMENT

Women who have not been administered medication are able to move from side to side, go the bathroom, and walk during labor.  This can help relax the body.  Studies have shown that women who get medication during delivery will often have a harder time changing positions after the baby has been delivered.

Mothers who go natural will also be able to assist more when it comes time to push.  Your body will work better when the urge is felt.  Mothers with an epidural often have longer pushing times, since your feeling is desensitized.

Most women who have a successful natural childbirth are able to walk around almost immediately.  Recovery overall is quicker for natural deliveries.

INSTINCT

When delivering naturally, a woman will be able to choose certain birthing positions.  There are birthing balls available to help alleviate the pain.  Your body will also guide you to help your baby deliver easily.  A woman in labor that is having back pain will naturally try to avoid lying on her back.  This is also one sign that a baby is in the posterior position, and staying off of your back helps the baby turn without medical intervention (such as a C-section).

Your body will guide your birth if you let it, and many of the complaints during a medicated delivery could possibly be overcome through natural childbirth practices.

ENDORPHINS

Your body will release endorphins during childbirth.  These chemicals have been secreted into the placenta and the umbilical cord during delivery, and are believed to make your baby's delivery more comfortable as well.

LOWERED RISK OF MEDICAL INTERVENTION

Women who have an epidural administered can be a relief when the mother has had a very difficult labor, or just has no energy left.  When taken, however, mothers should be aware there is an increased need for assisted delivery through vacuum extractors or forceps.  This presents an added risk for your baby.

Women are empowered with the ability to give birth naturally.  While there are absolutely many cases where medical intervention is necessary, often omitting the natural method of delivery makes it more difficult to deliver.  During standard medical deliveries, a woman will have restricted movements because she is attached to monitors, no food or fluids in case of surgery, and few options for non-medical pain relief.

If you choose to attempt natural childbirth, speak with your doctor well ahead of time and make sure that he or she agrees with your feelings.  Having the support of your physician is imperative.  Make a birthing plan an visit the hospital to let the staff know you want a nurse that is willing to accommodate a natural birth.  Some medical staff are more willing than others to work with natural birth techniques.

You may also want to consider a birthing center.  This is a special place where it will feel much more like home for delivery.  Staffed with midwifes, they are prepared to handle emergencies while giving you a relaxing experience.  If you want a water birth, most birthing centers offer this option.

Explore pain relief techniques before the big day.  Take a class such as La Maz, or find a doula that can offer you individualized relief and massage.

When experiencing labor, it is different for every woman.  Those who have not let labor progress on its own may not believe a woman who says "I didn't even know I was in labor."  Sometimes it progresses easily other times it is very uncomfortable, but most of the time contractions are tolerable for a woman until the end.

By the time you get to "transitional labor", it's often too late to change your mind.  This is the few minutes when you panic, and want to change your mind about having a baby.  The classic period when you scream out all your panic, but it simply signals the time to push.

Once you have reached transitional labor, you are almost through.  Hang in tight, and you will have a baby before you know it.  Some women even elect to help catch their own babies as they come out.

There is pain during labor, but most women who experience natural childbirth feel incredibly empowered.  The pain is forgotten almost immediately.  Subsequent deliveries are usually done naturally as well, even knowing the discomfort.

I have had four deliveries, and chose to go natural after a bad experience with an epidural my first delivery.  It is an amazing and wonderful experience to be able to participate in bringing your baby in the world instead of being told when to do everything.  However, each women is different, make sure you discuss any decision with a medical profession.

Every woman has a birthing story to tell.  Every birth has a different story, even with the same mother.  Keep your mind open to the experience, and don't feel cheated if you don't have the ideal experience you envisioned.  Birthing a baby is an adventure.  The tiny bundle of joy you hold in your arms is simply the beginning of your birth experience, whether you had a natural birth, went with an epidural, or had a C-section.

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by Patricia Hughes

Music for the Baby

Toys, music CDs and other merchandise designed to provide music to unborn and newborn babies tout the positive effects of music on developing babies. Expectant parents may wonder if they should purchase these products, or fear they are putting their baby at a disadvantage if they don't listen to enough, or the right kind of music. Expert opinions vary regarding whether music has a positive effect.

Various studies conducted over the past two decades have demonstrated the ability of the fetus to hear sound. The inner ear is fully developed in last trimester of pregnancy. By 26 weeks, most respond with an increase in heart rate to sound stimulation. Many studies have pointed to the change in heart rate as a positive sign that the baby is stimulated by the music.

One study published in the Music Educators Journal looked at the effect of exposure to music in the prenatal period. Some participants were given music in the womb, either sedating or stimulating musical selections. After the birth of the baby, the parents and infants visited the researcher, and a range of activities and responses were observed by researchers. The study found that exposure to music in the prenatal period seemed to be linked to increased attention, more sound imitation and earlier vocalization in the baby.

Most of what the fetus hears is the mother's voice and internal sounds of the mother's body, such as breathing, movements and other sounds. There have been many studies that suggest the mother's voice is the preferred sound of newborns, who appear to recognize their mother's voice at birth. Singing along with music makes sense because it gives baby the opportunity to hear your voice and music.

It makes sense that stimulation of the brain with music would have a positive effect. It is when the baby is growing in the mother's body that the majority of brain development occurs. The idea behind research into music exposure during the pregnancy is designed to enhance the development of the brain with appropriate stimuli. Research continues into this subject and determining which music has the most positive effect.

Not all scientists agree that music has positive effects on the fetus. Some reject the theory that an increase in heart rate signals a positive response in the fetus. One such researcher is University of California neuroscientist Gordon Shaw. Shaw suggests the change could be a signal the baby is not comfortable with the sound.

There is some evidence to suggest the type of music may influence the baby's response. Soothing, classical music and nature sounds are believed to be soothing, while louder types of music may startle the baby.

Another factor is the volume of the music, which could be played too loudly. Some people believe the sounds are muffled and increase the volume or put speakers or headphones on the abdomen directly playing into the baby's head. Sound is conducted by the amniotic fluid and it is easy for this method to produce music that is too loud for the baby.

It's important to note that there are no long term studies that demonstrate listening to music in the womb will influence the baby's intelligence or translate into success in learning later. However, this idea is based on anecdotal evidence that classical music stimulates different areas of the brain, which is thought to stimulate better connections in the brain. The hypothesis is that the increase in connectors will result in enhanced memory and information processing functions of the brain later. This theory has yet to be proven with research, and may or may not turn out to be the case.

Whether or not exposure to music will make baby smarter, there is some evidence to suggest soft music, such as quiet classical music and nature sounds have a calming effect on the baby. This often continues after birth. Many babies are soothed by the same soft music they heard during the pregnancy and recognize the rhythm. Several studies have demonstrated the newborn's ability to recognize certain music selections that were played during pregnancy.

Music benefits mom by helping to her to relax or lifting a low mood. That is good for the baby because research has demonstrated that baby is affected by mom's emotions. So, choose music that you find relaxing and not too loud. Loud music is not good, as it can startle the baby. A general rule of thumb is to keep the music to the level that is played in stores.

Products are sold to parents as essential tools for playing music for the baby and reaping any benefit that may result from music exposure. A typical style is a belt that is worn around the belly to project the music to the baby. Check the decibel level to make sure the music is at a comfortable level for baby. These products are nice, but not necessary. Because the amniotic fluid conducts sound well, playing music in the background as you go about your day works too.

Pregnancy Hair Care by Patricia Hughes

Pregnancy changes many things about the body, including the hair. The changes and challenges each woman experiences with her hair are unique. Some of these changes, such as improved thickness and growth, are beneficial and others can be frustrating. As the hair changes, some adjustments in your hair care routine may be needed.

Many of the changes in the hair are caused by changes in the hormone levels during pregnancy, particularly estrogen and progesterone. Although all women experience hormonal changes, the response can depend on several factors, including genetics. For some women, less shedding of the hair results in thick, beautiful hair that has never looked better.

The thickness and shine some women experience isn't enjoyed by all pregnant women. Changes in the hair vary for each woman – and even from pregnancy to pregnancy in the same woman. It's possible to have great hair the first time and dry, brittle hair with a subsequent pregnancy.

Some women find their hair becomes dry during pregnancy and they may experience breakage as a result. If your hair is dry during pregnancy, use frequent deep conditioning treatments. Salon treatments may help and your stylist can offer suggestions for hair care products and techniques to improve the condition of your hair.

There are some things you can do to prevent breakage. One is to stop wearing tight pony tails. Mothers often pull back the hair at home to keep it out of the way or because we don't have time to style it. Elastic hair bands contribute to hair breakage, so if dry hair and breakage is a problem, ditch the pony tail for now.

When you visit your stylist for a deep conditioning treatment, have her trim your hair. When the ends get dry and brittle, they tend to break easier. Having the brittle ends cut off can help prevent this. Consider going a little shorter or adding layers when you have your hair cut. In addition to preventing breakage, layers make breakage less noticeable and layers often help improve the appearance of dry hair.

If you have dry hair during pregnancy, you should shampoo it less frequently. You can skip the shampoo, give it a good rinse in the shower and apply a conditioner, if dry hair is a problem. Styling products and leave in conditioners approve the appearance of dry hair. Be careful when styling your hair and use heat as sparingly as possible. Wait until the hair is almost dry before using the blow dryer to avoid drying out the hair and contributing to the problem.

Not all women experience dry hair during pregnancy. Some find the oil production in the scalp increases in response to the hormonal changes of pregnancy. Previously easy to manage hair may become oily and limp as your pregnancy progresses. Some women find they were able to wash their hair every other day, but during pregnancy, they need to shampoo every morning.

The texture and manageability of the hair may change during pregnancy. The hormonal changes in pregnancy cause more of the hair follicles to remain in a resting phase, rather than shedding. This is the source of thicker hair during pregnancy. For women with fine hair or straight hair, this is often a blessing. These women are responsible for the myth of beautiful hair during pregnancy.

For women with thick, course, curly or dry hair, this additional hair can be more of a curse than a blessing. Thicker hair just means unmanageable frizz for some women. In this case, some changes in the cut or styling may help. Layered hair cuts or thinning techniques during a hair cut can help cut down on too much volume.

Styling products can help manage out of control hair during pregnancy. What to use depends on your hair's texture and style. A great cut and scrunching in a little spray gel may be all curly hair needs to look great. Straightening products and frizz control hair products are helpful for getting control of out of control hair.

Select hair products based on your hair type and the issues you are having during pregnancy. A moisturizing shampoo and deep conditioner is great for dry hair. For oily hair, choose a gel type shampoo that is designed to cleanse the scalp and take care of the excess oil.

Some women worry about hair care products and chemical ingredients. For this reason, many women avoid chemical treatments during pregnancy, such as perms, coloring or straightening the hair. There is no solid evidence that styling products cause damage. However, if you are worried about hair care products, read the labels and choose natural ingredients. There are several organic shampoos and hair care products that contain no dangerous chemical ingredients.

Biography
Patricia Hughes is a freelance writer and mother of four. Patricia has a Bachelor’s Degree in Elementary Education from Florida Atlantic University. She has written extensively on pregnancy, childbirth, parenting and breastfeeding. In addition, she has written about home décor and travel.

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Playing the Baby Clothespin Game where everytime you say 'Baby' you get a clothespin added to your sting necklace

by Patricia Hughes

Baby shower games are a part of nearly every baby shower. If you are hosting a shower, the task of selecting games and entertaining guests may seem daunting. Fortunately, planning baby shower games doesn't have to be stressful or expensive. Here are some ideas for easy baby shower games that don't require many supplies or additional work.

How big is Mommy's belly? This is a game that has been played at showers for years, but remains popular. It's also an easy and inexpensive one to prepare. All you need is some yarn and a pair of scissors. For this game, each guest cuts a piece of yarn to a size they think will fit mom's waist. The guests with the yarn nearest to mom's belly wins!

Baby Gear Alphabet: This is another game that is easy to plan. Paper and pens are all that is needed. Guests list the letters of the alphabet down one side of the page and fill in a baby item for each letter of the alphabet. For example, Amby, Bottle, Car seat, Diaper…and so on. A variation of this game is to make a list of as many baby items as possible and the one with the most items wins.

Baby Pictionary: Divide the guests into two teams and play a baby version of pictionary. Make cards prior to the shower with baby related phrases. The game works just like the traditional Pictionary game. One person from each team chooses a card and draws what is written and team mates try to guess the phrase.

Guess that Baby: For this game, you'll need to have each person bring a picture of themselves as a baby. Display the pictures and have the guests match the baby pictures to the guests at the shower. The person with the most correct guesses wins.

How Many in the Jar: Most people are familiar with this game, as a variation is played in many situations. Fill a jelly jar with any small object, such as diaper pins, newborn pacifiers, Q-tips or any other small object. The guests need to guess how many are in the jar to win the prize.

Don't Say the Word (or Never Say Baby): This is a common game that has been played in different variations at many showers I've attended over the years. The host chooses a word; often "baby" and the guests aren't allowed to say that word. Other words that can be used include the baby's name, the gender of the baby or any other related word. Necklaces are given to the guests and when a guest says the forbidden word, another can take the necklace. Whoever has the most necklaces at the end of the shower wins a prize.

Unscramble the Word: Make a list of baby gear or words and scramble the words. For example, the word blanket could be ktnaelb. Set a time limit, such as five or ten minutes and the person with the most words unscrambled wins the game.

New Parent Trivia: This game lets guests show off how well they know the mother, or mother and father to be. Depending on the guest list, you will decide whether to use questions about just mom or mom and dad. Create a list of questions about the mother or the couple and the guests need to answer the questions. The one with the most correct answers wins.

What is it? You will need blindfolds and small baby items that you can hold in your hand. The guests wear blindfolds and the host places an item in the palm of the hand. Using only touch, the guest must figure out what they are holding. Things like pacifiers are easy, so select more difficult or unusually shaped items to make the game more interesting.

There are numerous websites on the internet with baby shower games for sale as well as free games you can print from your home computer. One site with some good printable games is http://www.plan-the-perfect-baby-shower.com/ .  Some of the printable games include bingo, scavenger hunts and trivia games.

Ideas for Prizes

Most baby shower games involve some sort of prize for the winner. Depending on the number of games that will be played, this can get expensive. You don't have to spend a fortune on shower prizes. The local grocery store or dollar store is a good source of inexpensive prizes, many for $1 each or less. Some easy and inexpensive ideas for shower prizes:

• Lotions
• Refrigerator magnets
• Small notebook or journal
• Note cards
• Candles
• Nail polish
• Bath products
• Packages of baking mixes (muffins, cookies)
• Small picture frames
• Seed packets

Other ideas include Finish the Baby Rhyme, and Guess the Baby Item where the person is blindfolded and had to guess the item handed to them. These are just a few of so many fun baby shower games. Hopefully give you a start on a fun and enjoyable baby shower. If you have some ideas ideas, go to the bottom of this page and you can share them with everyone!

by Patricia Hughes

Leg Cramps are common during Pregnancy

Leg cramps are a common discomfort in pregnancy, particularly in the third trimester. The sudden cramping and tightening of the calf muscles is extremely painful and often happens at night, causing you to wake in pain from a peaceful sleep.

The exact cause of leg cramps is not known, but there are some factors believed to contribute to leg cramps. The increased weight of pregnancy, changes in blood circulation and pressure on the nerves from the growing baby are believed to cause the discomfort in the legs. The best way to deal with leg cramps is to prevent them.

Preventing Leg Cramps

There are some things you can do to prevent leg cramps. Standing or sitting for too long at one time can cause leg cramping. If your job requires you to stand or sit for extended periods of time, take breaks throughout the day. Put your feet up if you stand for work and get up and walk around periodically if you sit at a desk.

How you are sitting can also contribute to leg cramping. Avoid crossing your legs when you are sitting. Circulation is decreased when the legs are crossed. Sitting with your feet elevated at the end of the day or on breaks helps improve the circulation, which can help reduce cramping.

When you do get up, stretching the leg muscles can help prevent cramping. Stretch the calf muscles during the day and before you go to bed at night, since this is when cramping is most common. Walking is another way to improve the circulation in your legs and stretch the muscles.

How you sleep at night influences your circulation. Lying on the left side at night is the best sleeping position for increasing blood circulation. This is important for cramping, as well as bringing more oxygen to your body and your baby.

Regular exercise is good for your circulation. There are many benefits to exercising in pregnancy, including fewer leg cramps, reduced risk of certain complications, controlling weight gain and preparing the body for labor. Swimming, walking and prenatal yoga are forms of exercise that increase circulation, can reduce leg cramps and are gentle. Ask your doctor or midwife before starting a new exercise routine during pregnancy.

There is evidence to suggest certain supplements can help with cramping. The theory is that low levels of calcium or magnesium can be responsible for increased cramping. The science is mixed on whether taking additional supplements is helpful, but might be worth trying for recurring cramps. Speak to your health care provider before adding additional supplements to your daily regimen.

Dehydration can contribute to leg cramping. If you experience leg cramping, pay careful attention to stay well hydrated. Take a water bottle with you to work or when out running errands. Sipping water throughout the day helps you stay well hydrated, which can reduce leg cramps.

Dealing with Leg Cramps

Despite the best prevention efforts, cramping can still happen. When you are struck with a cramp in the middle of the night, the pain is sudden and intense. To loosen the muscles and relieve the cramp, stretch the leg, flex the foot and move the toes around to work the cramp out. Avoid pointing the toes, which can intensify the cramping.

Stand up and walk around until it stops. This will be uncomfortable at first, but continuing to walk around the bedroom helps to stretch the muscles and increase the circulation in your legs. Taking a warm bath, using a hot water bottle or massaging the calf muscles can also be helpful for stopping the cramp when they happen.

When to Worry about Leg Cramps 

Although leg cramps are a fairly common discomfort and usually require no medical treatment, not all leg cramps are benign. Some things to watch out for include constant pain in the calf muscles, tenderness and swelling. This can be a sign of a blood clot in the leg, which can be very serious or life threatening, if the clot breaks off. Symptoms of blood clots should never be ignored.

According to the American Society of hematology, women are at increased risk of developing clots during pregnancy. A family history of blood clots, obesity and bed rest increase this risk and could lead to complications in the pregnancy or danger to the health of the mother. As a result, it's important to watch out for the warning signs and report them to your doctor immediately.

More information on leg cramps in pregnancy is available through the March of Dimes .

by Jennifer Shakeel

Fifteen years ago I was told by many, "remember you are eating for two now," every time I sat down to a meal. The doctors weren't really all that concerned with the amount of weight I should gain… though towards the end they did tell me that I should be careful I would have trouble losing the weight. I was young, 21, I didn't care I would get back in shape, no problem.
Jump ahead to last year, with my last pregnancy and my fear of gaining weight took me over, the doctor's said to me, "You aren't really eating for two. Your body is going to provide the baby with the nutrients first… and they you. So make healthy food choices and you will be fine." They key was everything in moderation.

You have to make healthy food choices so that the nutrients that are going into your body are good for you and baby. You do need additional nutrients to help baby grow properly and for you to remain healthy while you are pregnant, but you are not eating for two people. A simple increase of only 300 calories a day is ideal to take care of you and baby.

The last thing in the world you want to do when pregnant is restrict your diet. You need to take in the appropriate amounts of protein, minerals and vitamins. Taking a prenatal vitamin is very important. I am sure that you are now wondering just how much weight you should gain. The answer depends on what weight you are starting out at. If you are currently overweight, the doctors are going to monitor your weight gain closely and so should you. Excess weight can make way for a difficult delivery and possible problems for baby.

Consider these guidelines through your pregnancy. Your weight gain should be gradual, with the "bulk" of the weight gained in the last trimester. During the first 3 months of pregnancy you should gain between 2 to 4 pounds, and then each month for the rest of the pregnancy you should gain between 3 to 4 pounds. The maximum weight gain they say is around 25 to 30 pounds but that is really going to depend on the weight you started out at.

Many of the OB doctors that I spoke with really say that 20 pounds is the ideal amount of weight gain. "This will decrease the risk of delivering a low-birth-weight baby. The Institute of Medicine recommends that women who have a low Body Mass Index (BMI) — the ration of weight to height — should gain 28 to 40 pounds during pregnancy and women who have a higher BMI should gain 15 to 25 pounds."

So what is the weight that you gain? Anywhere from 6 to 8 pounds of that weight is the baby you are carrying. The rest is the extra fluid in the body, the larger breasts and uterus and the placenta.

While now is not the time to diet, you do want to make sure that you are taking in the best foods possible and that you are doing it in moderation so that you can give baby the best start possible. The weight will come off. Remember it takes 9 months to put it on, so don't expect it to be gone the morning after you give birth.

Biography
Jennifer Shakeel is a writer and former nurse with over 12 years medical experience.  As a mother of two incredible children with one on the way, I am here to share with you what I have learned about parenting and the joys and changes that take place during pregnancy. Together we can laugh and cry and rejoice in the fact that we are moms!

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Whether you are expecting your first baby or are an experienced mom, writing a birth plan helps you have the experience you want during delivery.  Even though unexpected things may come up during labor, having a plan can help you feel in control when you walk through the hospital doors.  Working together with your wishes, those of your partner and your doctor will help things go as desired.

What is a birth plan?   It's simply a written plan that gives details on how you would like your labor to happen.  It will include all the details, so that when you are in labor – and possibly not communicating so well, your nurses and doctor will have a clear outline of your expectations.

The first element of your birth plan will include what type of delivery you want to have.  Some women want to schedule it in advance, know they want the epidural, and don't mind helping nature take its course.  Other women want to go completely natural, with no pain medication.  Others are willing to try natural with an epidural as an option.  Reading up and talking with your  provider and other moms on the risks and recovery will help you make the decision that is right for you.

If you have decided to go with a natural birth, make sure that your provider will be supportive.  From early on you will want to develop a relationship with your pre-natal provider.  Some doctors are opposed to letting things go all natural, while others are much more accommodating.  There is also the option of delivering at a birthing center, particularly if you want to attempt a water birth or less "traditional" birthing experience.

High risk pregnancies make these options less possible.  Often a C-section and scheduled delivery is necessary due to your individual case for the baby's safety and your own.  Discuss what is going to happen well ahead of time with your physician so that you are prepared for the day and have help for the recovery.

There are other things you will want to have ready ahead of time in your birthing plan.  Once your labor starts, often the most important things get forgotten.  Writing a birthing plan and keeping it with your bags as well as in your hospital file will make the big day much easier.

Things you might want to consider adding in your birthing plan:

Who will need to be at the hospital or birthing center.  Make a list with your essential attendees, including any friends or relatives, a doula if you are using one, and whether you want your other child(ren) there.  Make sure to have phone numbers where they can be contacted in case labor progresses too quickly for you to call.

What the environment should be like.  Do you prefer the lights dim, do you want certain music available.  How do you want the camera set up for pictures / video – how much exposure is ok?

What you need during labor.  Do you want your partner to stay the whole time?  Will it be ok if students are in your room during delivery?  How will you stay hydrated?  Do you want an IV or just a port?  Will you want the option to be able to walk around? Do you want the monitors on the entire time, or just periodically to check on the baby?

During labor, at what point to you want pain intervention?  What kind of intervention is ok?  Do you want to wait until you are dilated to a certain point, or do you want to be comfortable during your delivery?  Do you want alternative pain relief, such as massage, acupressure or breathing techniques? 

Once in labor, it is very difficult to verbalize what you want.  After you have hit "transition" labor, you may know that you start to get nearly panicky for those few moments before delivery.  If there are things that are going to be important to you once the doctor gets in the room, make sure your nurses know in case things go too fast for you to tell them. 

This may include things such as whether you want an episiotomy (a small incision that will prevent tearing) or if you would rather take the chance of not tearing.  Do you want to help catch the baby, and who will cut the umbilical cord? 

Once your little person is welcomed into the world, make sure the staff knows if you want the baby to stay with you, or to be brought in for feeding.  Some moms will need the rest, while others won't want baby out of their sight – either choice is ok, it just depends on you and how delivery went. 

Make sure that you have also informed the hospital if you are going to breastfeed.  This way the lactation consultant can be on hand to make sure you get off to a good start.  If you want your baby bottle fed, indicate what is ok for them to offer and if you want your baby fed on demand or on a schedule.

Find a birthing plan online where you can simply check off your preferences, or write your own.  Just make sure that it is easy to overview, without a lot of extra explanations.  Short and concise is the easiest things for your nurse and partner to deal with during labor and delivery.

Don't stress out about having your birthing plan perfect.  Labor and delivery is an adventure, and each story is different.  Be flexible, and don't feel bad if you have to modify plans on a moment's notice.  It isn't the delivery that is important – even though you want it to be the best experience you can.  The most important thing is bringing home a happy and healthy baby and mom.  Then the rest of the story begins…

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As a mom to four beautiful children, I have learned that pampering yourself isn't selfish, it's essential. Whether this is baby number one or ten, moms fare best when they take care of themselves first – starting with pregnancy. Find the time to relax and recharge, because once your little one is on the outside, finding time to relax will become more of a challenge than ever.

You probably already know that getting enough sleep is important, but with a new baby developing it is even more true. In order to help you sleep better at night, there are a few easy and enjoyable things you can do. Try soaking in a warm tub – not too hot, to get your body to unwind. Add lavender essential oils to enhance the experience.

If your partner is helpful in finding ways to help you relax, perhaps he can have the bath ready with candles and soft music. Perhaps this will result in some spontaneous romance, which will help you feel better about your changing body.

As the third trimester closes in, it's time to start thinking about ways to make life easier after the baby. Instead of being completely practical, use this as a chance for one last splurge. Go for a facial and a good haircut. While being pampered in the salon, use it as an opportunity to get a really good cut that will be low maintenance after the new baby.

Getting a massage has always been the deferred to means of relaxation. Add a massage to your list of "must haves". Make sure your massage therapist knows you are pregnant (there are certain pressure points they will avoid). If going for a massage isn't an option, try an at home massage oil for your partner to use – if your partner is away, let your older kids massage.

Learn to accept help, because you will find that you appreciate it. Moms really can't "do it all", and having a casserole in the freezer or getting help cleaning your house can give you that little boost you need when you start to feel overwhelmed with all the preparations. Having your partner or a friend help you can take a lot of the weight off your shoulders.

Do something fun – a bachelorette party, except for expectant moms. Take your partner on a quick weekend getaway for a relaxing time. Let someone else do all the cooking and cleaning, while you take in the sights. Choose somewhere that you have wanted to go, but that navigating with a baby in tow would be tricky. Museums, hiking, the ocean… your options are endless. Keep it simple, though – you don't want to stress over a vacation.

This is the time to do something you only get one shot at. Perhaps you have seen the parenting magazines with the belly casts – hurry and make yours as a one time souvenir of your pregnancy. If you'd rather, have someone paint a design on your belly – the ideas are endless, from pumpkins to basketballs, to faces. Find some adorable ideas, then paint your belly with body paint. Make sure to take lots of pictures.

If you are sleepy, take a nap. As your baby gets closer to the delivery date, your body will need more rest to get you ready. Simply give in and take a nap with that soft, comfy pillow….

Shop online for some specialized pampering products. Earth Mama Angel Baby Organics offers a line of products from pregnancy through delivery and then for the baby. These products come without any toxins, and are safe, making it stress free to buy.

Make a fun date of pouring through baby name books at the local library. Instead of simply looking for your baby's name, find the meaning of your name and that of your friends and family. It may be an eye opening experience to discover the origin and meaning of some of the names. Keep a list of the names you want, but don't be too stuck on one name; when baby comes out, he (or she) might surprise you with personality that doesn't match the name.

Surprises happen more than you can imagine, so go ahead and plan on a lunch date with your friend on baby's due date. This will keep you from focusing too much on "wanting the baby out" and will give you one last chance at relaxation. You are sure to be pampered at the restaurant when they see that you are well into your expectancy dates.

If you are still feeling a little selfish thinking about doing all this pampering for yourself, keep in mind that it's just practice. In a few short weeks, you will be giving all your attention to your new baby, and you will need to be pampering them. Enjoy every moment – it goes by in a flash.