na Jennifer Shakeel
Ua lohe ʻoe e pili ana i nā wahine i loaʻa i ke kaumaha postpartum. Ua hana kekahi i ka nūhou me nā mea a lākou i hana ai. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa nui ma waena o Brooke Shields a me Tom Cruise i kekahi mau makahiki i hala aku nei inā he ʻano maoli a ʻaʻole paha a inā pono e hoʻohana ʻia nā lāʻau lapaʻau e hoʻokō ai. Hiki i kāu kauka ke kamaʻilio pōkole iā ʻoe no ia mea, a laila e hoʻokuʻu ʻoe. ʻO ka manaʻo e komo i loko o kou noʻonoʻo, "ʻO wai ma ka honua e hiki ke kaumaha no kēlā hanana maikaʻi?" ʻO ka pane, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā wahine ma mua o kou ʻike.
ʻO ka mea mua aʻu e makemake ai e hoʻomaopopo ʻoe he mea maʻamau ke kaumaha i ka trimester hope o ka hāpai ʻana. ʻO ka loli ʻana o nā hormones, ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana o kou ikaika, ʻaʻole hiki ke hiamoe maikaʻi, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana e lilo ana ʻoe i makuahine hou (no ka manawa mua a i ʻole ka lua a i ʻole ke kolu) ʻo ka hāʻule ʻana i loko e hiki ke hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka wahine. ʻaʻole like me ia iho a me ke kaumaha. ʻAʻole kēia e ʻōlelo ana e hele nā wahine a pau i kēia. ʻAʻole wau i hana me kaʻu mau mea mua ʻelua, akā hiki iaʻu ke haʻi iā ʻoe me kēia… ua paʻakikī nā pule ʻelua i hala.
E hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole i pau ke kaumaha o ka hānau keiki. ʻAʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe hauʻoli i ka pūʻolo hauʻoli hou. ʻOi aku ka nīnau ʻana i nā mea a pau āu i hana ai i ka wā ma mua a hiki i kēia manawa a noʻonoʻo inā e lilo ʻoe i makuahine maikaʻi. Ke hoʻololi nui nei kou ola, ʻoiai ʻo kāu keiki mua a ʻekolu a ʻehā paha. ʻO ka mea ʻino loa o ka honua hiki iā ʻoe ke hana, ʻaʻole e ʻae a kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou ʻano. E kamaʻilio me kahi mea āu e hilinaʻi ai, ʻoluʻolu ʻoe, ʻaʻole ia e hoʻohewa iā ʻoe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoa pili, kou kaikuahine, makuahine, nā mea lapaʻau, hoa aloha, kauka… e kamaʻilio me kekahi. Inā ʻo ia ka mea e noho ʻoe a hoʻopau i ke awakea me ka uē a ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ke kumu a laila e noho ma laila a uē a laila lawe i ke kelepona a kelepona i kēlā kanaka.
Noʻu, ua hoʻopau wau i nā pule ʻelua i hala e nīnau inā he wahine maikaʻi wau a he makuahine maikaʻi paha. Ke noʻonoʻo nei au inā ʻaʻole i puka mai kēia pēpē no ka mea makaʻu ʻo ia e hoʻopilikia wau iā ia. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua hopohopo kēia i kaʻu kāne a ua hana koʻu kaikuahine liʻiliʻi i ke ʻano o ke kaikuahine nui ʻoiai ʻo ia i hoʻohana ai i nā hola ma ke kelepona me aʻu i ka lā aʻe i koʻu uē ʻana a haʻi i koʻu mau hopohopo āpau a haʻi mai iaʻu me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, nā mea aʻu e pono ai e lohe. . Mahalo nui wau i kaʻu kāne a me koʻu kaikuahine.
I kēia manawa e kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i ke kaumaha postpartum. ʻEkolu ʻano like ʻole o ke kaumaha ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, ʻo ia ka mea a mākou i ʻike ai ʻo "baby blues" e hiki mai ana ma hope o ka hānau ʻana i loko o nā lā 5 mua. ʻO ke kaumaha ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, e pili ana i 1 i loko o 10 wahine, hoʻomaka ia i ka wā ʻeleʻele ka pēpē a piʻi wikiwiki. Aia pū kekahi Puerperal Psychosis, loaʻa kēia i nā mahina ʻekolu ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, pili i 1 i 1000 wahine a ʻo ia ka hihia koʻikoʻi loa.
Eia hou, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ka "baby blues" he mea maʻamau, ma kahi o 50 a 75% o nā wahine e ʻike i kēia ʻano. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke waimaka, hopohopo, huhū a manaʻo paha ʻoe i ka manaʻo ʻole i ka pēpē. Hoʻopau maʻamau kēia e like me ka hikiwawe. ʻO ke kaumaha ma hope o ka hānau ʻana a me ka puerperal, ʻo ia ka piʻi ʻana o ka pēpē pēpē, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kēlā me kēia ma mua. Ma kekahi o nā kūlana he mea nui loa e kamaʻilio me kekahi e pili ana i kou manaʻo, a e kamaʻilio pū me kāu ʻoihana mālama ola inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi nā mea. Aia kekahi mau mea ʻē aʻe āu e hana ai e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokō i kāu mea e manaʻo nei.
ʻO ka mea mua, pono ʻoe e mālama iā ʻoe iho. Maopopo iaʻu he hiki i ka pēpē hou ke hoʻohauʻoli. He mea koʻikoʻi loa nā pēpē hou, hiki iā ia ke paʻakikī loa iā ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo e lawe i ka manawa no ʻoe iho. ʻO kēia ka manawa koʻikoʻi loa no ʻoe e hōʻoia i ka mālama ʻana iā ʻoe.
1. Moe e like me kou hiki. I ka wā e hiamoe ana ke pēpē, pono ʻoe e hiamoe. Hiki ke kali ka hana hale. Inā hoʻonele ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka hiamoe e hana ʻoe i nā mea āpau i ʻoi aku ka ʻino a laila he aha ia. ʻO ka moe ke ʻano o ka makuahine e hoʻomaha ai ke kino a me ka noʻonoʻo.
2. ʻAi me ka meaʻai. ʻOiai ʻo kēlā kīʻaha caffeine i ke kakahiaka e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻonui i ka nui o ka ʻike ʻana i ka honua, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hana ʻana iā ʻoe ma mua o ka maikaʻi. Inā like ʻoe me aʻu, makemake mau ʻoe i kēlā kofe, no laila e inu ʻoe i ka wai ʻalani a me ka nui o ka wai. E ʻai i nā huaʻai hou a me nā mea kanu, ʻaʻole i nā ʻōpala a me nā ʻōpala. Pono kou kino i nā meaʻai e hoʻoponopono iā ia iho a mālama iā ʻoe.
3. Hooikaika kino. ʻAe, e ala a e neʻe. E hele wāwae me ka pēpē, e kōkua ka ea hou e hoʻomaha i ke kaumaha a hoʻomaʻemaʻe i kou noʻonoʻo.
4. E lawe i kekahi manawa "me". He mea paʻakikī kēia, akā he mea nui ia e mālama ai i kou noʻonoʻo. ʻAʻole pilikia inā he ʻauʻau ʻauʻau he 10 mau minuke, kahi āu e hoʻomālamalama ai i nā ihoiho, hoʻokani mele mālie a hoʻoheheʻe ʻia i loko o nā ʻōpū. He ʻumi mau minuke e pili ana iā ʻoe.
ʻOiai ʻo ka hapa nui o nā wahine e hoʻopau koke i ke kaumaha ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, he mea nui e kūkākūkā me kahi mea mālama ola inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi a ʻoi paha nā mea.
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He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!
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