na Jennifer Shakeel
Nui nā mākua hāpai i ke aloha o ka hānau keiki hou. Hiki iā mākou ke hauʻoli nui i ka hiki ʻana mai o ka pēpē a poina iā mākou e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā loli e hiki mai ana, inā makemake mākou a ʻaʻole paha. E like me ka nani e like me ka makua hou, inā ʻo kāu keiki mua kēia a i ʻole ka lua a i ʻole ke kolu, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē e hoʻololi i kou ola mau loa.
Manaʻo wau ua hāʻawi ʻia nā pō hoʻomaha o ka hiamoe he mea i hala, a no ka liʻiliʻi hoʻokahi makua, pēlā nō ka ua mau. Moe pinepine nā mākua hou i ʻelua a ʻekolu paha hola i ka manawa, no ka mea, ʻelua hola a ʻekolu hola paha kā kā lākou pēpē. Ua hiamoe ka makua i ka uē ʻana o kāna pēpē. Hoʻololi liʻiliʻi kēia papa hana moe ʻole i ka makahiki mua o ke ola o ka pēpē. Ua akaaka au i keia; He ʻekolu aʻu mau keiki, ʻo nā keiki ʻelua i moe i ka pō mai ka wā i puka mai ai. ʻO ka hoʻohui hou loa i ko mākou ʻohana, aia nō kāna papa hana ponoʻī. I kekahi mau pō e hiamoe ana ʻo ia i ka pō, ʻo kekahi po e ala ana ʻo ia i kēlā me kēia 45 mau minuke, ʻo kekahi mau pō ʻelua a ʻekolu paha hola. Ua hoʻoholo wau e pili ana i kahi e noho ai ka mahina i ka lewa a me ke kuhikuhi o ka makani.
Ma luna o ka hiamoe wikiwiki, pono ka mālama ʻana i ka pēpē i ka hoʻoikaika ikaika. Ma ke ʻano he makua hou, aia nā mea i hāʻawi ʻia, pono ʻoe e hānai mau i kāu pēpē, ʻāwī iā ia, a hoʻololi i kāna mau diapers. He mea nui nō hoʻi e nānā ʻoe i ka pēpē—ʻoiai inā e hiamoe ana ka pēpē—e hōʻoia i ka maʻamau o kona hanu ʻana. Nui nā keiki liʻiliʻi he colicky, a laila pono ʻoe e hoʻonui i ka manawa āu e hoʻāʻo ai e hoʻomaha i ko lākou uē ʻana. A i ʻole e like paha lākou me kā mākou kaikamahine hou, he mau lā kona makemake e ala i ka lā a pau. ʻAʻole naʻe ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻo ia ka palau, a i ʻole hoʻopau i ka lā i ka uē ʻana (ʻoiai aia kekahi mau lā) ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e hiamoe. ʻO ia kahi pilikia ʻē aʻe inā ʻoe e hana mai ka home e like me aʻu; Ua hala kaʻu lā hana mai 6 a 8 hola a i 2 paha hola inā ua laki au. A i loko o ia mau hola ʻelua ke hoʻāʻo nei au e ʻauʻau a mālama pū i ka hale.
Hoʻololi nui ka pēpē i kou ola no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe e ola hou iā ʻoe iho. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoholo hou e hele i waho o ke kūlanakauhale, e ʻike i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni, a i ʻole e hele kūʻai aku no ka mea he pēpē kāu e pono ai kāu mālama mau. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻike nui nā mākua hou ua ʻoi aku ko lākou ola no ka mea ke kau nei lākou i ko lākou ola ma kā lākou keiki. No ka laʻana, hoʻomaka lākou e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā hoʻolālā mālama kālā no nā kālā kālā o kā lākou pēpē. ʻO ka hopena, no ka hoʻololi ʻana o kā lākou mau pono kālā i kā lākou pēpē, ʻaʻole hoʻohana hou nā mākua hou no lākou iho e like me ka wā ma mua o ka makua.
Ma waho aʻe o kēia mau hoʻololi hou ʻana, manaʻo nui nā mākua hou i nā loli i kā lākou pilina me kekahi ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o kā lākou keiki. Nui nā mākua hou e paio ana kekahi i kekahi no ka papa hana ʻai a me ka hiamoe ʻana o ka pēpē. No ka laʻana, ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke kali i ka hōʻea ʻana mai o kā mākou kaikamahine hou, i kona hiki ʻana mai ma ʻaneʻi, makemake wau e hāpai hou iā ia i ʻole au e haʻi aku iā ia me kekahi. He nani kona makuakāne, a ua like kona hauʻoli ʻana o kona kaikuaʻana a me kona kaikunāne i kona lilo ʻana iā ia a makemake nā mea a pau e hoʻokomo a kōkua a paʻa iā ia a me nā mea leʻaleʻa a pau, akā i ka manawa like makemake wau e waiho wale me ia. . Ma muli o ke kūlana ʻoihana, hiki i kekahi makua ke noho ma ka home i ka hapa nui o ka manawa me ke keiki hānau a hele kekahi i ka hana. Hiki i nā mākua ʻē aʻe ke hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa like no ka mālama ʻana i ka pēpē, ʻoi aku hoʻi i ka pō ke huli nā mākua i ka hiamoe.
ʻIke pinepine nā mākua hou i ko lākou ola kaiaulu i ka emi nui ʻana, no ka mea, ʻaʻole hele maikaʻi kā lākou keiki hou i nā hale ʻaina a i ʻole nā huakaʻi ʻē aʻe. Eia hou, e pili ana kēia i kāu pēpē a me ke ʻano o ʻolua ma ke ʻano he kāne. Makemake mākou e hele i ka ʻaina ahiahi ʻelua manawa o ka mahina. He mea ia a kā mākou mau keiki makua, no laila ʻaʻole mākou i makemake e hoʻōki i kēlā no ka pēpē wale nō. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, makemake kā mākou pēpē hou e hiamoe i ka ʻaina ahiahi ma waho o kahi hale ʻaina. Lawe mākou iā ia i waho no ka manawa mua i kona wā he 4 mau lā. Eia kekahi, lilo ia i mea paʻakikī i nā hoaaloha ke kipa aku no ka mea hāʻawi nā mākua i ka hapa nui o ko lākou nānā ʻana i ke keiki. Ma muli o kēia kūlana, nui nā mākua i hoaloha hou me nā mākua ʻē aʻe, no laila hiki iā lākou ke mālama pū i kā lākou mau keiki i ka wā e noho pū ana. Pono wau e ʻōlelo, ʻo wau kekahi o kēlā poʻe kahu makua. ʻO ka hapa nui o kā mākou mau hoaaloha he mau keiki e like me kā mākou mau keiki. A i kekahi manawa he pōhaku, pepa, ʻokiʻoki e ʻike ai ʻo wai ka makua e hoʻoponopono i nā keiki ke hui pū mākou.
He ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki i kahi pēpē hou ke kau i ke koʻikoʻi nui i ka pilina o nā kāne. Ua ʻike paha ʻoe i kekahi kāne e hakakā mau nei no kā lāua mau keiki, a he ʻokoʻa ko lākou manaʻo no ka mea maikaʻi loa no kā lāua mau keiki. He nui nā kāne e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole lāua i hakakā a hānau keiki. Hiki iā lākou ke hakakā no ka mea ua manaʻo kekahi hoa ʻaʻole hana kekahi i kāna ʻāpana o ka hana mālama keiki, a ʻaʻole i hoʻokō ʻia kekahi mau manaʻolana ʻē aʻe. He mea nui e hana ʻoe a me kāu hoa i kahi laina ākea o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kekahi. Ma waho aʻe o nā Hormone, pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou manaʻo a pēlā pū ka makua kāne o ka pēpē. E hoʻomanaʻo, ma mua o ko ʻolua mau mākua, he kāne ʻolua, a mai kēia manawa aku ʻolua.
Aia kekahi mau koʻikoʻi e puka mai ana mai ka hale hou o ka ʻohana. Nui nā makua kāne hou, no ka laʻana, manaʻo pinepine lākou i ka manaʻo o ka mālama ʻole ʻana i ka wā e hāʻawi ai ka makuahine i kona manaʻo kokoke i ke pēpē wale nō. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka mālama ʻana i ke pēpē wale nō he 100% kūlohelohe, no ka mea, ua hoʻopili ʻia ka makuahine hou e nānā pono i nā pono o ke pēpē. No laila, ʻaʻohe pono o ka makua kāne e manaʻo lili a ʻeha paha i ka manaʻo o ka makuahine i ke keiki, ʻoiai he mea maʻamau kēia mau manaʻo. ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, i ka wā e oʻo ai ke keiki, hoʻi pinepine ka pilina o ka kāne i ka mea maʻamau.
Nui nō hoʻi nā mākua i ʻike i ka nele i ke ola moekolohe no ka makahiki mua o ka hānau ʻana o ke pēpē, no ka mea, ʻo ka luhi kino a me ka naʻau e hoʻopilikia i kā lākou moe kolohe. A laila aia nā mākua hou i hoʻonui ʻia i ka hoʻoikaika kino. E wehe i kekahi i kekahi, ʻoi aku ka nui o ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kekahi i kekahi.
Makemake nui ka hapa nui o nā mākua i ka ʻike ʻana i ka ulu ʻana o kā lākou pēpē, mai ka hahai ʻana i kāna mākau kaʻa a hiki i kāna minoʻaka mua. Hauʻoli nō hoʻi lākou i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i nā hola o ka manawa e hoʻopaʻa ai me kā lākou pēpē ma ka moe ʻana me ia, pāʻani me ia, a me ka hānai ʻana iā ia. ʻOiai paha he mea ʻoluʻolu kēia mau hana i ka poʻe o waho, he mea leʻaleʻa lākou i nā mākua hou.
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē hou hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaha a noʻonoʻo i nā hana like ʻole āu e hana ai. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke nīnau inā he manaʻo maikaʻi ka hele ʻana i kēlā kaʻa kaʻa me ka mahiole. ʻO ka noho ʻana i waho i ka wā makua maikaʻi ʻaʻole paha he mea āu e makemake nui ai i kēia manawa aia kahi kanaka liʻiliʻi hou e hilinaʻi nei iā ʻoe. ʻO nā mākua ʻaʻole paha i paʻa i ko lākou puka ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi keiki i kēia manawa me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole, no ka mea ke kau nei lākou i ka uku no ka palekana o kā lākou keiki.
ʻOiai ʻaʻohe kānalua e hiki i kāu pēpē hou ke hoʻololi i kou ola, e ʻono paha ʻoe i kēlā me kēia minuke no ka mea e hoʻopio ʻia ʻoe i kou hōʻea hou ʻana. He nui nā mākua e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ka makahiki mua o ke ola e holo wikiwiki ana, a he ala maikaʻi ia e manaʻo ai ʻoe. ʻIke wau ua hana wau…
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He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!
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