na Jennifer Shakeel
ʻO ka hapa nui o nā kaikamahine liʻiliʻi e hoʻomaka i ka moeʻuhane i ka lilo ʻana i mau mommies a me nā pāʻani no ka manawa lōʻihi me nā pēpē. Hoʻokomo lākou iā lākou, hoʻololi iā lākou, hānai iā lākou a hoʻopaʻa pū iā lākou! Hauʻoli mau lākou a ʻakaʻaka pū me kā lākou pēpē a hōʻike wale i ke aloha! ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha i ka wā e noʻonoʻo mua ai ʻoe i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ka nani o ka wā e hāpai maoli ana ʻoe.
Hoʻomaka ka manaʻo o ka hāpai ʻana ma mua o kou hāpai ʻana. Hoʻomaka maoli ka hauʻoli o ka hāpai ʻana ke hoʻoholo ʻoe ua kūpono ka manawa e hānau ai i kahi pēpē. Ke hoʻomaka nei ʻoe e hoʻolālā a noʻonoʻo paha ʻo ia paha, hoʻopololei maoli ʻoe i kēlā pōʻai menstrual, lele liʻiliʻi kou puʻuwai a hoʻomaka ka manaʻolana i loko e ulu. Hoʻomaka ʻoe e hauʻoli a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kali e lawe i kēlā hoʻokolohua hāpai mua. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā wahine e hopohopo a hopohopo i ka manawa like. I ka hōʻoia ʻana o ka hoʻāʻo i kou hāpai ʻana, pehu ʻoe me ka hauʻoli a me ka hauʻoli. I kēia manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke kaʻana like i ka nūhou me ka mea āu e aloha ai.
ʻAʻohe manaʻo aloha nui aʻe i kāu hoa kāne a i ʻole nā mea ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai ʻoe e nānā pono iā ia ma ka maka a ʻōlelo ʻoe, "Ua hāpai mākou!" Loaʻa ka manaʻo nui o ka hauʻoli a me ke aloha a ua kokoke ʻoe ma mua o kou manawa ʻē aʻe. Aia kahi paʻa maikaʻi loa i ulana ʻia ma waena o ʻolua ʻaʻole i hoʻopuni iā ʻolua wale nō, akā ʻo kēia keiki hou a ʻolua e haku pū nei. ʻOiai e hāpai ka wahine i kēia keiki, pili ʻolua i kēia keiki ʻoiai ʻaʻohe kanaka ʻē aʻe o ka honua a hoʻonui kēia i nā manaʻo o ka pilina a me ke aloha āu e kaʻana like ai. Nānā ke kāne i kāna wahine me ka pumehana a me ka pili kokoke a ʻike ʻo ia iā ia ʻo ka makuahine o kāna mau keiki.
ʻOiai ʻo nā mahina mua, a ma hope paha, hiki ke paʻakikī i ke kino no ka wahine, nui nā loli nani e kū nei. I loko o kēia manawa e lohe ʻoe i ka puʻuwai o kāu pēpē no ka manawa mua loa! He manawa kēia āu e makemake ai e kaʻana like. He manawa ia e ʻoliʻoli nui ai ʻoe. E hoʻohauʻoli a hauʻoli hoʻi iā ʻolua a e ulu pū ka manaʻo o ke keiki e ulu ana i loko ou. ʻO kēia kekahi o nā manawa o kou hāpai ʻana i piha ai ʻoe i ka hauʻoli no ke ola e kuʻi nei a e ulu nei i loko ou. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā makuahine e makemake e lohe pinepine i kēlā leo a me nā makuakāne i ka leo o kēlā puʻuwai ikaika.
Ua piha ʻolua i ka hauʻoli i ka hala ʻana o nā mahina mua a ua mākaukau ʻoe e hele i ka huakaʻi a ke kauka. Ua ʻike ʻoe i nā kiʻi ultrasound ʻē aʻe, a ua kali ʻoe i nā hebedoma e loaʻa iā ʻoe. Noʻonoʻo ʻoe, "Pehea ke ʻano o kēia keiki?" "Pehea ka nui o keia keiki i keia manawa?" ʻAʻole ʻoe i loaʻa i kahi ultrasound, a i ʻole ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi me kahi keiki ma mua, akā i kēlā me kēia manawa e loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi ʻike ʻokoʻa loa. ʻOkoʻa ke ʻano o kēlā me kēia keiki. E hana ana kēlā me kēia keiki i nā mea like ʻole ke hana ʻia ka ultrasound. Nui nā pēpē e kau i ko lākou mau lima i mua o ko lākou alo, nui ka poʻe e omo ana i ko lākou manamana lima a ʻo kekahi e kīkī ana i ko lākou mau wāwae i luna a i lalo. ʻAʻohe mea a kāu pēpē e hana ai i ka wā e hana ʻia ai kēlā ultrasound, e hoʻopiha ʻia ʻoe a me kāu hoa i ke aloha hiki ʻole ke hoʻomaopopo ʻia. E ʻike ʻolua i kēlā pūʻulu hauʻoli, a e hoʻopiha ʻia i kahi nalu o ka ʻiʻini e leʻaleʻa i kēia keiki.
ʻO ka mea maʻamau i ka manawa o ka ultrasound mua, e hoʻomaka ana ʻoe e ʻike i kahi ʻūlū liʻiliʻi i loko o kou ʻōpū. ʻAʻole paha ʻoe i manaʻo i ka manawa mua loa, a manaʻo paha ʻoe he mea ʻole a i ʻole kekahi mau lele i loko o kou ʻōpū. ʻO kēia ka manawa mua āu e ʻike ai i ka neʻe ʻana o kāu pēpē. ʻO ka mua he mālie a māmā. Hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo i ka lele pinepine ʻana a i ʻole kekahi mau manawa wale nō, akā i kēlā me kēia manawa āu e manaʻo ai, ʻoi aku ka ikaika a me ka ikaika. Ma mua o kou ʻike ʻana, hoʻomaka kēia ʻāʻī liʻiliʻi e like me ke kīkē, a i ʻole he kuʻekuʻe. ʻO ia ka manawa kupanaha loa āu i ʻike ai i kou hāpai ʻana. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kali e ʻike hou. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kali i ka ikaika a me ka noʻonoʻo. ʻO kēia ka manawa e makemake ai ʻoe e kaʻana like i kēia manaʻo me nā mea āu e aloha ai. Aia kekahi manawa e hopu ai ʻoe i ka lima o kāu kāne a kau i loko o kou ʻōpū i hiki ai iā ia ke ʻike pū! ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke hoʻomaopopo maoli i kēlā manaʻo nani e puka maoli mai ana mai loko mai, akā he mea ia e makemake ai ʻoe a me kāu kāne e kaʻana like. Nui nā kāne makemake i ka manaʻo o kā lākou keiki e ikaika a ikaika i ka ʻōpū. He kōkua iā lākou e launa pū me ke keiki, a me kā lākou mau wahine.
Ua hele ʻoe mai ka manaʻo hoihoi o ke aʻo ʻana i kou hāpai ʻana, i nā mahina mua o ka maʻi kakahiaka, i ka weliweli o ka lohe ʻana i ka puʻuwai puʻuwai a ʻike i kāu keiki ma o ka ultrasound, ʻo ia ka manawa e paʻa maoli a ʻike i kāu keiki. ʻOiai hiki ke loaʻa nā ʻeha a me nā ʻeha i ka wā hāpai a i ka wā hānau, ʻo ka ʻike ʻana i kāu keiki e hoʻopau ʻia kēlā mau hoʻomanaʻo a hiki i ka wā i hala. E nānā ʻoe a me kou hoa i kēlā keiki, e helu i kona mau manamana lima, e nānā i nā manamana liʻiliʻi a pau a nānā a hoʻopā i kēlā me kēia ʻīniha o kēlā keiki i mea e ʻike ai i kēia pēpē. E hauʻoli ʻoe i ka hauʻoli i loaʻa iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole me kēia keiki wale nō, akā no kekahi. He mea hauʻoli ka hāpai ʻana i hiki ke kaʻana like i kēlā me kēia pae me ka makuahine a me ka makuakāne. Hiki i kēlā me kēia makua ke hauʻoli i kēlā me kēia ʻano o ka hāpai ʻana a inā hana lākou, e hoʻokokoke aku ai lākou i kekahi i kekahi a me kā lākou keiki hānau hou.
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He mea kākau ʻo Jennifer Shakeel a he kahu hānai ma mua o 12 mau makahiki o ka ʻike olakino. Ma ke ʻano he makuahine o nā keiki maikaʻi ʻelua me hoʻokahi ma ke ala, eia wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe i nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua a me nā hauʻoli a me nā loli i ka wā hāpai. Hiki iā mākou ke ʻakaʻaka a uē a hauʻoli i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo he mau makuahine mākou!
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