Ma ke ʻano he makua kāne ʻelua, hiki iaʻu ke haʻi aku iā ʻoe mai ka ʻike pilikino he nui nā hauʻoli i ka lilo ʻana i makua kāne e kali ana, e like me ka ʻike ʻana i kāu ultrasound mua, a i ʻole ka manaʻo ʻana i kāu pēpē kiki no kona manawa mua. Eia nō naʻe, paʻakikī paha ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke ʻano o ka makuahine o kāu keiki i ka wā hāpai. ʻAʻole ʻoe i hele i loko o ka hāpai ʻana, manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e pili me kāu wahine a ʻike pono i kāu mea e hana ai nona. ʻO ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana no kekahi o nā pilikia a me nā koʻikoʻi e kū nei i kāu hoa he ala maikaʻi loa ia e pili ai ʻoe iā ia a me kāu keiki. He maʻalahi ka nānā ʻana i nā loli kino a ka wahine i ka wā hāpai, ʻaʻole i ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka manaʻo a me ka hormonal. Inā hoʻomākaukau mākou iā mākou iho e makaʻala i nā loli a pau e hiki mai ana, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomohala i kahi pilina pili me ia a kōkua paha i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i kekahi o nā pilikia e loaʻa iā ia.
I loko o kēlā mau mahina mua o ka hāpai ʻana, hiki ke lilo i kaʻa kaʻa no nā makuahine, a me nā makuakāne. Hiki i nā hoʻololi hormonal ke lawe mai i nā ʻano pilikino like ʻole a mākou i ʻike ʻole ai ma mua. Hiki paha i kāu hoa ke uē, a hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki i kekahi manawa a ʻaʻole maopopo i ke kumu. He mea maʻamau kēia mau hoʻololi manaʻo, a hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua ma ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ka wā e hiki mai ana. E ho'āʻo e wehe a hoʻokipa i kona mau pono a hāʻawi i ka hōʻoluʻolu i kona wā e pono ai. Hiki i nā pūliki paʻa a me ka "I Love You" ke hele lōʻihi e hōʻoluʻolu i kāu wahine. ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana i ke aloha a me ke aloha he ala maikaʻi loa ia e hōʻike ai iā ʻoe i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana e hele nei ʻo ia i nā loli nui.
Inā no kekahi kumu e huhū a huhū paha kāu wahine, ʻo ka hoʻolohe maoli i kāna ʻōlelo he ala maikaʻi loa ia e hōʻike ai i ke kākoʻo a loaʻa iā ia ka hilinaʻi. E nīnau iā ia i ke kumu o kona manaʻo e like me ia, a i kāna haʻi ʻana iā ʻoe, e haʻi hou iā ia i ʻike ʻo ia e hoʻolohe maoli ana ʻoe. E kōkua kēia hōʻoia iā ia e kaʻana like hou aku iā ʻoe i kona manaʻo a kōkua i ka ulu ʻana o kāu pilina. ʻO kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana no kāu hoa, ʻo ia ke kūkulu ʻana i kona hilinaʻi iā ia iho a me kona manaʻo ponoʻī. ʻO ka hāpai ʻana ka manawa e manaʻo ai ka nui o nā wahine he ʻano maikaʻi ʻole, pehu a huhū. Inā ʻike ʻo ia e hoʻolohe ana ʻoe a hoʻolohe i kāna mau pono, e hāʻawi ʻoe iā ia i ka hōʻoia e pono ai ʻo ia e kōkua iā ia e like me ia.
He mea ʻole kēia, akā ʻo kekahi o nā mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ai iā mākou ke hana no kā mākou mau wahine, ʻo ia ke kōkua ʻana e like me ka mea hiki iā mākou ke hana i kēlā me kēia lā o ke ola. Ua luhi paha kāu wahine a ua hiki ke hoʻohana i nā lima ʻelua a puni ka hale. Inā ʻo ia ka hihia, e hoʻokomo a kōkua i ka holoi lole a i ʻole ka kuke ʻana. I loko o kēlā mau mahina mua ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia e makemake e kuke inā loaʻa iā ia ka "maʻi kakahiaka" a ʻo ʻoe ke komo ʻana e kōkua iā ia e ʻike e mālama ana ʻoe. E mahalo ʻia nā mea a pau āu e hana ai e kōkua iā ia i ka lā. Inā makemake ʻoe i ka wahine e hana i kēlā mau mea a ʻaʻole manaʻo nui ʻoe iā ia, a laila pono ʻoe e ʻae iā ia e hana.
I ka hala ʻana o nā mahina a hoʻomaka kāu wahine e hōʻike hou aʻe, hiki paha iā ia ke noʻonoʻo pono iā ia iho i kona helehelena. He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo he nui kona kaumaha. Manaʻo ka hapa nui o nā kāne he nani kā lākou wahine hāpai. ʻIke lākou i ka ʻālohilohi o ko lākou mau helehelena a ʻike lākou he nani lākou. Pono ʻoe e haʻi i kēia mau manaʻo hoihoi iā ia. E hōʻike iā ia i kona nani. E hōʻike iā ia e ʻike mau ana ʻoe iā ia he uʻi. E hōʻike i kou aloha iā ia ma ka lawe ʻana i nā pua, a i ʻole he puke āna e makemake ai e heluhelu. ʻOi aku ʻoe i kāu hoa ma mua o kekahi, a ʻo nā mea a pau āna e mahalo ai he hōʻailona o kou hoʻolaʻa iā ia he ʻanuʻu i ke ala pololei!
Inā he lima lima ʻoe a ʻaʻole paha, e hoʻāʻo e komo i ka hoʻonani ʻana i ka lumi o ke pēpē. He manawa maikaʻi kēia e launa pū me kāu wahine a me kāu keiki. ʻO ka hoʻoholo ʻana e pili ana i ka lumi o ka pēpē e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi manawa e pono ai e noho pū. Ke hānau ʻia ka pēpē, e liʻiliʻi ka manawa ma ke ʻano he mau kāne, a ʻo ka manawa kēia e hoʻohana pono ai i kāu manawa kāne. ʻAʻole wale ʻoe e hauʻoli i kēlā me kēia hui, akā e hoʻomākaukau ana ʻoe i kahi kūikawā kahi e hiamoe ai ke keiki āu i hana ai a pāʻani. Ma hope o ka pena ʻia ʻana o ka lumi a hui pū ka moena, hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu wahine ke kipa pū i ka lumi a hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo a me nā moeʻuhane no kēia keiki hou.
Ke kokoke mai nei kāu wahine i ka hopena o kona hāpai ʻana, makemake paha ʻo ia e hele i nā papa hanau keiki. Hoʻolālā ʻia kēia mau papa e kōkua i kāu wahine e hoʻokō i ka ʻeha, a me ka hauʻoli o ka hānau ʻana. ʻOiai ke kōkua nei kēia mau papa i kāu wahine, ua manaʻo ʻia lākou e kōkua iā ʻoe, ka makua kāne i kēia manawa waiwai. Na lākou e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i hiki ke kōkua i kāu wahine i kēia wā hoʻololi. Na lākou e aʻo iā ʻoe e lilo i "aʻoaʻo" nona i kēia kaʻina hana. ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa e pili ana i kēia mau papa, ʻo ia ka hāʻawi ʻana iā ʻoe i nā mea hana e pono ai e mālama i kāu wahine i ka wā o ka lawe ʻana. Hāʻawi nā papa hānau keiki iā ʻoe i ka hilinaʻi āu e pono ai e kōkua i kāu wahine e lawe mai i kēia pūʻulu hauʻoli hou i ka honua.
ʻAʻole wale ʻoe e mākaukau no ka hāpai ʻana a me ka hānau ʻana o kāu keiki, akā makemake ʻoe e mākaukau e kōkua i kāu wahine i kou hoʻomaka ʻana e mālama i kāu hānau hou. I loko o nā papa hanau e loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa e aʻo ai e pili ana i ka mālama keiki hou. E luhi ana kāu wahine a pau ka naʻau ma hope o ka hānau ʻana a pono ʻoe i nā kōkua āpau āu e hāʻawi ai iā ia. E hele ana kona kino i nā loli hormonal i kona hoʻi ʻana i kona kūlana ma mua o ka hāpai ʻana. ʻO ke kōkua ʻana iā ia e mālama i ke pēpē i ka wā hiki iā ʻoe, e hāʻawi iā ia i ka manawa hoʻomaha a me ka manawa hoʻomaha e pono ai. ʻOiai inā e hānai ʻia kāu keiki, hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i ʻāpana nui o kēia kaʻina hana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻololi i nā diapers, paʻa a hoʻoluliluli i kāu pēpē. No ka luhi o kāu wahine i kēia manawa, e hoʻokaʻawale i kahi manawa hou a hoʻomaikaʻi i kāu wahine. ʻO kahi ala maikaʻi no ʻoe e hana ai, ʻo ia ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana i meaʻai nona, a inā e uē ka pēpē i ka wā ʻai, e mālama pono i ka pēpē i pau kāna ʻai ʻana. E loaʻa iā ia nā makahiki o ka ʻai ʻana, a ʻo kēlā me kēia kōkua āu e hāʻawi ai iā ia ma kēia wahi, ʻaʻole e mahalo ʻia.
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