Hānau hānau - Pehea e hoʻomaha ai i ka makaʻu i ka hana

na Patricia Hughes

ʻO ka pae hope o ka hāpai ʻana hiki ke hoʻoulu i ka hopohopo no nā wahine he nui. ʻO ka makaʻu i ka hana maoli. Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi haʻawina i hana ʻia ma Suedena i ka makahiki 2001 ua loaʻa ka makaʻu i ka nui o nā lāʻau lapaʻau i hoʻohana ʻia i ka hana. Ua hana ʻia ke aʻo ʻana i nā makuahine mua a hōʻike i ka nui o nā lāʻau lapaʻau e pono ai no nā wahine i hōʻike i ka makaʻu ma mua a i ka wā hana. Hiki i ka makaʻu ke loaʻa i nā ʻano he nui, e like me ka makaʻu i ka mea i ʻike ʻole ʻia, ka ʻeha a i ʻole ka makaʻu ma muli o ka lohe ʻana i nā moʻolelo weliweli mai nā hoaaloha a i ʻole ka ʻohana e pili ana i nā hana paʻakikī.

Ua loaʻa ka makaʻu i ka hana i nā makahiki i hala iho nei. I ka makahiki 2000, ua ʻōlelo kekahi ʻatikala ma ka British Journal of Psychiatry i kēia makaʻu. Ua kapa ʻia ʻo tokophobia, a i ʻole ka makaʻu i ka hānau ʻana. Ua kapa ʻia kēia makaʻu ma ke ʻano he maʻi psychiatric. Ua hōʻike ʻia ka haʻawina i kūkākūkā ʻia ma ka ʻatikala i ka hopena o ka makaʻu i ka piʻi ʻana o nā mares pō a me nā hōʻeha weliweli.

Nui nā kumu e makaʻu ai nā wāhine i ka hana. ʻO kekahi, ʻo ka [tag-cat] hānau keiki [/tag-cat] ua uhi pinepine ʻia i ka pohihihi. ʻAʻole ulu nā wahine i ka ʻike ʻana i ka hānau ʻana a me nā pēpē. I nā hanauna i hala, ua hānau ʻia nā pēpē ma ka home. Ua ʻike nā wāhine ʻōpio i nā kaikunāne, nā kaikunāne a me nā hoahānau i hānau ʻia i ko lākou ola ʻana. I ka hiki ʻana mai o ka wā hānau keiki, ʻaʻole lākou hopohopo i ke kaʻina hana. Loaʻa i nā wahine ʻōpio i kēia lā ka makaʻu i ka mea i ʻike ʻole ʻia ke hāpai lākou. No ka hapanui o nā wahine, ʻo kā lākou pēpē ponoʻī ka mea mua a lākou e ʻike ai i ka hānau ʻana.

I nā makahiki he haneli i hala iho nei, ua lilo ka hānau ʻana i mea lapaʻau. I loko o ka mōʻaukala kanaka, ua hānau ʻia nā pēpē ma ka home me kahi pale keiki e hele mai ana. I nā hanauna i hala iho nei ua neʻe ka hānau ʻana mai ka home a i ka haukapila. ʻO ke kaiapuni olakino me nā mīkini, nā leo, nā ʻala a me nā limahana lapaʻau e hoʻoulu i ka makaʻu.

ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻoponopono ai i ka makaʻu i ka mea i ʻike ʻole ʻia e aʻo e pili ana i ka hana a me ka hānau ʻana. E heluhelu i nā puke e pili ana i ka hānau ʻana a e lawe i kahi papa hoʻomākaukau hānau. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻaiʻē i nā puke mai nā hoaaloha a i ʻole ka hale waihona puke. ʻOi aku ka nui o kou ʻike e pili ana i ke kaʻina o ka hānau ʻana, ʻoi aku ka nui o kou hilinaʻi i ka hiki o kou kino ke hānau.

Hōʻike ke kīwī e hōʻike ana i ka [tag-ice] hānau [/tag-ice] he kumu maikaʻi o ka ʻike. ʻAʻole pēlā i nā manawa a pau. Hōʻike kekahi o kēia mau hōʻike i ka hāpai ʻana a me ka hānau ʻana me nā pilikia. Hiki iā lākou ke haʻalele iā ʻoe me ka hopohopo a ʻoi aku ka makaʻu. Hiki iā ʻoe ke manaʻo he paʻakikī nā hānau ʻana a pau. ʻAʻole kēia ka hihia a e hopohopo ʻole ʻoe. E nānā i nā wikiō a kāu kumu hoʻonaʻauao hānau keiki no ka manaʻo maikaʻi o kahi hānau maʻamau.

Ke aʻo ʻoe e pili ana i ka hānau ʻana, e hana i kahi hoʻolālā hānau. Hōʻike kāu hoʻolālā hānau i nā mea āu e makemake ai a me nā mea āu e makemake ai e pale i ka hana. Hiki i ka hana ʻana i kahi hoʻolālā hānau ke kōkua iā ʻoe e manaʻo nui aʻe i ka mana. Kōkua pinepine kēia i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa i ka makaʻu. E kūkākūkā i kāu papahana hānau me kāu kauka a i ʻole [tag-tec] palekeiki[/tag-tec]. Hāʻawi i nā kope i kāu kauka, ka haukapila, kāu kumu hana hana a hoʻopaʻa i hoʻokahi i loko o kāu ʻeke.

E ʻimi i nā ala e hoʻokuʻu ai i ka makaʻu. He koho maikaʻi paha kahi papa hypnobirthing inā makaʻu ʻoe i ka hana. Hoʻohana kēia ʻano hana hypnosis iā ʻoe iho e hoʻoponopono i ka ʻeha o ka hānau ʻana. Kōkua ia e hoʻopau i ka makaʻu a hoʻomaha iā ʻoe. Loaʻa i ka papahana nā CD no kēlā me kēia trimester na ʻoe e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ma ka home. E hoʻohana i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻike a me ka hoʻomaha hoʻomaha e kōkua i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i ka makaʻu.