ʻO ka hāpai ʻana, ka hānau keiki a me kāu hānau hou - he aha kēia?

Hoʻomaikaʻi! Ma hope o nā mahina o ke kali ʻana, ua hiki mai kāu pēpē. Ua pau kou mau lā o ka hāpai ʻana, a ke hoʻomaka nei kahi huakaʻi hoihoi hou. He manawa kupaianaha kēia mau lā mua e hala koke. Pono e hoʻohana i kēia mau lā mua a me nā pule i ka ʻike a me ka pilina ʻana me kāu pēpē, ʻo ʻoe a me kou makuakāne. ʻO ka mea maʻamau, makemake ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha pili e kipa aku e ʻike i ke keiki hou. Akā, makemake paha ʻoe e kaupalena i nā kipa ʻana i ka pule mua a i ʻole.

Mālama iā ʻoe iho. E hoʻomanaʻo ua hala ʻoe i ka hānau keiki. e luhi ʻoe a pono ʻoe e hoʻomaha. Mai hoʻāʻo e lilo i supermom a hana i nā mea pupule e like me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i ka hale a me ka kuke ʻana i ka ʻaina ahiahi nui. E manaoio mai ia'u; ia oe ke koena o kou ola no ia mau mea a pau. I kēia manawa, pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ka hoʻomaha a me ka ʻike ʻana i ka lālā liʻiliʻi hou o kou ʻohana.

Mai kali i kāu mau malihini. Ua lohe au i nā moʻolelo weliweli o nā makuahine hou e kuke ana no ka hui ʻoiai e noho ana nā malihini a paʻa i ke pēpē. Mai hana i kēia. E kōkua nā kānaka iā ʻoe i ka kuke ʻana a me ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe. Inā makemake nā kupuna wahine e kipa aku, pono lākou e lawe mai i ka ʻai a i ʻole ka lole lepo. ʻAʻole ʻo ka paʻa ʻana i ke pēpē ke kōkua āu e pono ai. Pono ʻoe e hoʻomaha ma ka sofa a i ʻole ka noho haʻalulu me ke pēpē a hoʻomākaukau kekahi i ka meaʻai.

E hoʻohana ka pēpē i ka hapa nui o kona manawa e hiamoe a ʻai ai i nā lā mua ma ka home. Moe nā keiki hou i ka hapa nui o ka manawa, akā ʻo kēia ka manawa lōʻihi o nā moe pōkole. E ala ana ka pēpē e ʻai i kēlā me kēia hola a ʻelua paha, inā e hānai ana lākou. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi no ka pēpē a me kāu lako waiu e hānai ai ʻoe i ka pēpē ma ke koi. Ma hope o kēlā me kēia hānai ʻana, e hiamoe hou paha ka pēpē. 

He mau lā, a he mau pule paha, no ka noho ʻana o ka pēpē i kēlā me kēia ʻano o ka hānai ʻana a i ʻole ke ʻano moe. He mea maʻamau kēia a hoʻokahi kumu hou e lohi ai i ka ʻoihana. Pono ʻoe e hiamoe i ka wā e hiamoe ai kāu pēpē, ʻoiai e nalowale ana ʻoe i ka hiamoe i ka pō. Me ka liʻiliʻi, e noho ka pēpē i kahi ʻano moe hiki ke wānana a hiamoe no ka manawa lōʻihi. A hiki i kēlā manawa, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaha ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike ua loli kou ʻano a i ʻole he mau manawa kaumaha. I kekahi manawa, manaʻo paha ʻoe i ke kaumaha a me ka luhi. ʻIke ʻia kēia ʻo ka baby blues a he mea maʻamau. ʻO ka hui pū ʻana o ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā hormones a me ka nele o ka hiamoe e hāʻawi i ka manaʻo i kahi uliuli liʻiliʻi. Aia kekahi mau mea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, e like me ka hiamoe ʻana, kamaʻilio me kahi hoaaloha a i ʻole ka hele wāwae ʻana i waho.

E nānā i kou manaʻo i kēia manawa. Inā ʻoi aku kou kaumaha ma mua o ka haʻahaʻa iki ʻana, hiki ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ke kaumaha post partum. ʻO nā hōʻailona o ka PPD ka manaʻo o ke kaumaha, ka uē pinepine ʻana, ka makemake ʻole i ka pēpē a i ʻole nā ​​​​hana ʻē aʻe i leʻaleʻa mua, nā manaʻo makaʻu a me nā loli i ka moe a i ʻole ka ʻai ʻana. Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua loaʻa paha iā ʻoe ke kaumaha post partum, e kelepona i kāu kauka. I kekahi manawa hopohopo nā wahine i ko lākou manaʻo e lilo lākou i mau makuahine ʻino. ʻAʻohe mea i ʻoi aku ma mua o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻO ka PPD kahi maʻi maʻamau e pono ai ka mālama ʻana. 

I kēia manawa aia ʻoe i ka pae aʻe o ka ulu ʻana o kāu keiki, e ʻoluʻolu e nānā i kā mākou Baby a Parenting nā ʻāpana o kā mākou pūnaewele no ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me ka ʻike no kāu keiki e ulu ana.