Ukuqonda Ukucindezeleka Kwangemva Kokubeletha

Ukwamukela usana olusha emhlabeni kuyinto ejabulisayo kubazali. Lesi senzakalo siphawula isiqalo sezinto eziningi ezintsha nezenzakalo ezishintsha ukuphila. Nokho, kunabesifazane abaningi ababhekana nezinkinga ngokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo ngokushesha ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi "i-postpartum depression". Kubalulekile ukuthi abesifazane nabesilisa baqonde lolu hlobo olujwayelekile lokudangala. Lapha, uzofunda ngokudangala kwangemva kokubeletha, izimpawu nezimpawu ezivame kakhulu ezihlobene nalesi simo sezempilo, nokunye.

Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha ngokuvamile kuhlukaniswa ngezigaba ezintathu ezihlukene. Lezi zigaba zisukela kokuncane kuye kokunzima. Uhlobo lokuqala lokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha lubizwa nje ngokuthi “i-baby blues”. Ngokuvamile, phakathi nezinsuku ezimbalwa, umama angase aqale ukuba nemizwelo ehlukahlukene engase ibonakale inamandla kunanoma iyiphi ake waba nayo ngaphambili. Lolu hlobo lokucindezeleka belwaziwa ukuthi luhlala kuze kube amasonto ambalwa ngemva kokubeletha ingane.

Lesi simo empeleni sithathwa njengesijwayelekile njengoba siwumphumela wokuguquguquka kwamahomoni. Omama nobaba ngokufanayo bangaqiniseka ukuthi i-blues yengane ayiyona inkomba yokugula ngengqondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, nakuba imizwa yokucindezeleka nokucasuka ingase ingakhululeki kubazali, ngeke iphazamise ikhono likamama lokuzinakekela kahle ingane yakhe. Kumane kuyisiteji esizodlula njengoba amahomoni eqala kabusha ukwakheka kwawo okujwayelekile emzimbeni.

Isigaba sesibili sokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha komama abasanda kubeletha sibucayi kakhulu. Akuwona wonke umuntu wesifazane ozala umntwana ozoba nalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka. Nokho, kukhona abambalwa abazokwenza. Lapho owesifazane ehlangabezana nalesi simo sengqondo, kungase kube nzima ukuzinakekela kahle yena nosana olusanda kuzalwa. Nokho, uma lolu hlobo lokucindezeleka lusingathwa ngendlela efanele futhi lwelashwa, lungaqedwa ngokushesha. Inkinga nje ukuthi abazali abaningi abafuni usizo ngalolu hlobo lwenkinga yemizwa ngokushesha.

Kunezibonakaliso eziningi ezivamile ezihambisana nesigaba sesibili sokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, noma ukucindezeleka “okungeyona ingqondo”. Zimi kanje:

• Owesifazane angase azizwe ecindezeleke kakhulu, kodwa akakwazi ukuhlonza isizathu sokuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka.
• Kungase kube nezikhathi lapho umama engakwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo ngendlela efanele.
• Kungase kube nokucindezelwa kwesifiso sokudla, noma owesifazane angase aphuze ngokweqile uma kuziwa ekudleni.
• Ukukhathala kungase kube uphawu oluvamile ngalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha. Ukuphazamiseka kokulala, njengobunzima bokulala nokuhlala ulele kungase kuvame.
• Abesifazane abaningi bangase bathole ukuthi abanasithakazelo ezintweni ababezijabulela.
• Kukhona abanye besifazane abazizwa sengathi abakho kahle ekukhuliseni izingane, noma bangase bakhathazeke njalo ngezici ezihlukahlukene zempilo yengane yabo entsha.
• Abanye omama ababhekana nalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka ngemva kokukhulelwa bangase bacabange ukuzibulala. Kwezinye izimo, owesifazane angase abe nemicabango lapho efuna ukulimaza ingane. Kodwa-ke, cishe ku-100% wamacala, umama akasoze athatha le micabango nganoma iyiphi indlela.

Kubalulekile ukuthi abesifazane nabesilisa ngokufanayo bajwayelane nohlobo lwesibili lokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha. Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi owesifazane onokuqonda okuvela emndenini nakubangane bakhe, ukwesekwa nosizo oluvela kulaba bantu, kanye nokucindezeleka okuncane ngangokunokwenzeka ngokuvamile uyalulama kulolu hlobo lokucindezeleka ngokushesha nangempumelelo.

Uhlobo lwesithathu lokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha ngokuvamile yilona oluyinselele kakhulu futhi nakanjani lunzima kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa baqonde ukuthi lolu hlobo lokucindezeleka kwangemva kokukhulelwa ludinga usizo lwezokwelapha. Nakuba lolu hlobo lokucindezeleka luyivelakancane kakhulu, lungenzeka. Njengomzali, kufanele ufunde ukuhlonza izimpawu ezihambisana nalolu hlobo ukuze wazi ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthola usizo. Lapha, uzothola izimpawu ezivame ukuhlotshaniswa nalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha:

• Ukuqagela okubonakalayo nokuzwayo kungase kwenzeke kumama obhekana nalolu hlobo lwe-psychosis.
• Owesifazane angase aqale ukuzwa ukukhohlisa, noma uchungechunge lwezinkolelo zamanga.
• Abantu abanenkinga yemizwa, njengezinhlobo ezihlukahlukene ze-psychosis noma i-bipolar disorder, bangase babe nalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka ngemva kokukhulelwa.
• Ukuguquguquka kwemizwa namazinga ahlukahlukene okucasuka kuvame kakhulu kulolu hlobo lokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha.
• Abesifazane abaningi bangase babe nemicabango yokulimaza ingane yabo entsha, noma ezinye izingane, futhi bangase bazame ukwenza ngale micabango.

Uma kukhona ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, kunezinhlobo eziningi zokwelashwa ezingalandelwa. Lokhu kubandakanya, kodwa akukhawulelwe ku:

• Iseshini yokwelapha yomuntu ngamunye neyeqembu ukuze kubhekwane nezimpawu nezidingo ezithile ezingokwengqondo.
• Ukwabelana ngalolu daba nabangani kanye namalungu omndeni ukuze bakwazi ukusekela ngalesi sikhathi.
• Kunezinhlobo eziningi zemithi engakhishelwa ukwelapha ukudangala kanye nezimpawu ezehlukene ezihambisana nokudangala.

Uma ungumzali, noma usuzoba umzali, kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uyakuqonda ukudangala kwangemva kokubeletha kanye nazo zonke izimpawu ezihambisana nalesi simo. Nakuba kuyindaba evamile, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ngokuvamile kuyisimo esingaqondwa kahle. Uma ufunda kabanzi ngalolu hlobo lokucindezeleka okwenzeka ngemva kokukhulelwa, inqubo yokululama iyophumelela kakhulu uma kwenzeka. Khumbula njalo ukubonisana nodokotela oqeqeshiwe. Lesi sihloko asihloselwe ukukhuluma noma ukuncoma noma yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha ezithile.