nguJennifer Shakeel
Ujike ujike ubheke esibayeni sasekhaya. Uthenge izingane ezincane ezithandekayo, mhlawumbe usuthenge nesihlalo semoto kanye nempahla yasekhaya ezayo. Ubala izinsuku kuze kufike umncane wakho obusisiwe emhlabeni. Ngabe ususithathile isikhathi sokuza nohlelo lwakho lokusebenza, angiqondile ukuthi uzokwenzani ngesikhathi sokubeletha.
Nethezeka, ungacindezeli… ukuze ungacabangi ngakho noma ungazi nokuthi liyini uhlelo lomsebenzi. Njengoba ngihlezi lapha ngibheka uhlelo lwami lomsebenzi enginethemba lokuthi ngizoluqala noma yiluphi usuku manje ngizokusiza. Izinto zokuqala kuqala, uma ushadile, ingabe umyeni wakho usebenza eduze nasekhaya noma kude? Lokhu kuyisihluthulelo. Uma usekhaya usuyoteta, sikhona yini isikhathi sokuthi umyeni wakho afike ekhaya akuhambise noma ushayela u-911?
Nakuba ngithanda ukukutshela ukuthi uzokwazi ukuthi uzosikwa nini, ukuthi kunesikhathi esiningi phakathi kwalezo zifinyezo zokuqala kanye nesikhathi lapho umntwana ezovela khona emhlabeni, kodwa asikho. Ngengane yami yokuqala ngathola isikhathi sokuya esibhedlela, ngizulazula emaphasishi futhi ngishawe ngaphambi kokuba eze emhlabeni. Ingane yesibili, hhayi indaba efanayo. Angizange ngicabange ukuthi ngisemihelo, ngihambe ngiyohlolwa, wakhahlela isandla sikadokotela bangiphuthumisa esigcemeni sakwa-C esiphuthumayo. Ngakho kulokhu ngizilungiselele noma yini.
Qiniseka ukuthi unelungu lomndeni noma umngane osesimweni sokuthi “Ocingweni” uma uzoteta. Lokhu kungenxa yezizathu ezintathu, uma umlingani wakho engasebenzi eduze umngane wakho angakuyisa esibhedlela uma ungafuni ukushayela 911. Umngane wakho noma ilungu lomndeni lingakwazi futhi ukulinda ekhaya lakho ukuze ezinye izingane zakho zize ekhaya. ngakho-ke abezi ekhaya endlini engenalutho futhi balinde okungaba amahora kuze kube yilapho umlingani wakho ekwazi ukufika ekhaya. Isizathu sesithathu ukuthi umngane wakho noma ilungu lomndeni lingakwazi ukuletha izingane zakho esibhedlela ukuze zihlangane nodadewabo noma umfowabo omusha.
Udinga futhi ukupakisha leso sikhwama sasesibhedlela. Ukuba umhlengikazi ngingakutshela ukuthi ngincoma kakhulu ukuthi upakishe awakho ama-maxi pads kanye nama-Tuffs wipes. Kubiza kakhulu uma uwathenga futhi uhambe nawo bese kuthi uma unesibhedlela sikunikeze wona. Ukubeletha okujwayelekile kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane kuzokulalisa esibhedlela amahora angama-24. I-c-section izokugcina lapho cishe izinsuku ezi-3, uma konke kuhamba kahle. Ngakho faka ibhulashi lakho lamazinyo, inhlama yamazinyo, i-shampoo, isiqedaphunga. Qiniseka ukuthi unezingubo ozongena ngazo ekhaya.
Ngiphinde ngitusa ukuthi ukhulume nomndeni nabangane futhi ubone ukuthi ukhona yini ozimisele ukukusiza ngokudla komndeni nanoma yimiphi imisebenzi yasendlini emavikini ambalwa okuqala kodwa ikakhulukazi lezo zinsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala. Awudingi ukukhathazeka ngokulungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa, futhi umlingani wakho uzoba matasa nezingane futhi ezama ukukusiza. Lesi yisikhathi sokucela usizo futhi uhlele usizo.
Ungakushayi indiva ukubaluleka kokuqhamuka nohlelo lwabasebenzi. Kuzosiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka kuwena kuphela kodwa nomndeni wakho. Uhlelo lomsebenzi luzosiza nokuya esibhedlela nokubuya ekhaya kube lula kakhulu.
UJennifer Shakeel ungumbhali futhi owayengumhlengikazi onolwazi lwezokwelapha olungaphezu kweminyaka eyi-12. Njengomama wezingane ezimbili ezimangalisayo onenye esendleleni, ngilapha ukuze ngihlanganyele nani engikufundile mayelana nokuba umzali. Enye yezingane zami ine-ADD, uhambo lwethu lokufunda ukuze sibhekane nokuxilongwa kanye nokuthola ukuthi yini esisebenzela kangcono kube yinselele nenjabulo. Indodana yethu yatholwa cishe eminyakeni emibili nengxenye edlule, futhi siye saba nezikhathi ezimnandi nezimbi, injabulo nosizi. Uma nje ngingakunikeza usuku olulodwa lwethemba noma umbono owodwa ongasebenza ukukusiza wena nomndeni wakho ngiyazi ukuthi inhloso yami isifezekile. Ngifuna futhi ukwabelana nawe ngenjabulo nezinguquko ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngokubambisana singahleka futhi sikhale futhi sijabule ngokuthi singomama!
[…] Ngabe usuzinike isikhathi nokho ukwenza uhlelo lwakho lomsebenzi? Uhlelo lwabasebenzi alugcini nje ngokuphathelene nokuthi uzokwenzani ngesikhathi sokubeletha, kodwa luphathelene nokwenza ukuya esibhedlela nokubuya ekhaya kube lula kakhulu futhi kunciphise ingcindezi. funda isihloko esiphelele… […]