nguJennifer Shakeel
Nakuba ngikuzonda ngempela ukuqhuma ibhamuza lokuthi ukufinyela kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokubeletha, empeleni kungaqala amasonto ngisho nezinyanga ngaphambi kokuba ufike kulolo suku lomlingo lapho ingane yakho inquma ukungena emhlabeni. Kuya ngokuthi yikuphi ukukhulelwa kwakho lokhu nokuthi ukude kangakanani kuzoncika ekutheni ubona nini ukufinyela. Into eyodwa ozoyiqaphela ngokuqinisekile ubuhlungu nokungakhululeki okubabangela lapho usondela osukwini olukhethekile.
Isibonelo, bengilokhu ngifinyela inyanga edlule. Okokuqala nje babecasula ngaphezu kwanoma yini, babengenakho ukuvumelana kubo ngakho kwakungeyona into yokwethuka. Babefika behambe bephuza ingilazi enkulu yamanzi abandayo abasize ukuthi behlise umoya bayeke isikhashana. Qaphela lokhu, uma ufuna ukumisa ukufinyela okucasulayo qala ukuzifakela amanzi. Izikhathi eziningi asiboni ukuthi siphelelwe amanzi emzimbeni futhi lokho kukodwa kungabangela ukufinyela.
Ake sigxile kulezi ezingakhululekile nezibuhlungu okwamanje. Ukufinyela ebenginakho kulezi zinsuku ezimbalwa ezedlule kushubile, kungikhipha umoya futhi angisakhumbuli nokuthi kunjani ukukhululeka nokungabi nezinhlungu njengamanje. Nami ngingomunye walabo bantu abanqaba ukuthatha noma yini ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe ngoba ngesaba ukulimaza ingane (i-paranoid.. mhlawumbe). Nokho ngenxa yokuqina kokufinyela nokuthi sekunesikhathi eside nginazo ziyangicika.
Manje ngiyazi ukuthi zizoba buhlungu kakhulu futhi zibe buhlungu, okuyikhona okufunayo inqobo nje uma beshintsha umlomo wesibeletho kanye nokuzala okuqhubekayo. Zingase zingabekezeleleki, futhi uma usesibhedlela uzoba nohide lwezinketho zokuqeda izinhlungu, ezinganikezwa ngesikhathi esithile ukuze zikusize ubekezelele ubuhlungu. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uwathathe, ikakhulukazi uma ufuna ukuzizwisa okungokwemvelo nokuphelele kokulethwa. Ngenza nengane yami yokuqala, kwakumnandi. Ubuhlungu bungobesikhashana futhi umvuzo mkhulu kangangokuthi ngase ngikulungele ukukwenza futhi ngaso leso sikhathi.
Njalo ukukhulelwa kuhlukile, wonke umuntu ubekezelela ubuhlungu ngendlela ehlukile futhi abesifazane abaningi ikakhulukazi namuhla bafuna isipiliyoni esingokwemvelo. Ngakho yiziphi izinketho abanazo ukuze zibasize babhekane nomfutho. Ngiyajabula ukuthi ubuzile. Nazi izinombolo ongakhetha onazo.
Eyokuqala engifuna ukuyincoma i-acupressure. I-acupressure ingokwemvelo ngokuphelele, futhi ngeke ilimaze umntwana nhlobo futhi uma kwenziwa kahle nguwe noma umlingani wakho kuzokusiza ukuphatha ukuqina kokufinyela. Amaphuzu amabili angcono kakhulu we-acupressure ukudambisa izinhlungu zokufinyela iphoyinti le-BL-32 elitholakala ububanzi bomunwe owodwa ukusuka enkambweni yakho phansi kanye nobubanzi besithupha esisodwa kwesokudla noma kwesokunxele somgogodla. Kukhona ukudangala okungazwakala kulapho iphuzu likhona. Uma icindezelwa kufanele uzwe ukuba ndikindiki nomuzwa ofudumele. Leli phuzu lokucindezela liwusizo kakhulu ekudambiseni ubuhlungu.
Kukhona nephuzu onyaweni umlingani wakho angacindezela kulo elaziwa nge-KID-1. Ukuze uyithole inyakazisa izinzwane zakho, iphuzu litholakala ekucindezelekeni okuphawulekayo maphakathi nengxenye yesithathu yonyawo. Isebenza kahle kakhulu uma umlingani wakho esebenzisa iqupha lakhe ukufaka ingcindezi phezulu kuzwane omkhulu.
Uma umcabango wokuthi umlingani wakho akuthinte kwenza intukuthelo igcwale ekhanda lakho, umuntu uyaqaphela ukuthi ama-hormone kuphela futhi okwesibili qiniseka ukuthi kukhona ezinye izinketho.
Uma ungowesifazane othole ukukhululeka ebuhlungwini bokuya esikhathini ngokusebenzisa i-pad yokushisisa noma ibhodlela lamanzi ashisayo uzojabula ukwazi ukuthi ungazisebenzisa ukuze udambise ubuhlungu bokufinyela.
Ukholwa noma ungakholwa, ukuzala emanzini noma kubhavu nakho kuzosiza ekulawuleni ubuhlungu bokufinyela. Yingaleso sizathu sangempela abesifazane abaningi ngokwengeziwe bekhetha ukubelethela emanzini. Kuyavunywa, izincomo zezokwelapha ezikusizayo usebenzisa ichibi lokuzala ukuthi unwetshwe okungenani ngo-5 cm ngaphambi kokuba ungene emanzini ukuze amanzi angayeki ukuzala. Khumbula ukuthi umgomo uwukwenza ubuhlungu bubekezeleleke ukuthi ungayeki ukubeletha.
Isincomo sokugcina yilokho okwaziwa ngokuthi ukuzala. Ngokuyisisekelo okudingayo lokhu ukuthi ufunda ukuphumula ngesikhathi sokusebenza. (Njengoba ngibhala leso sitatimende ngiyagigitheka, kuphela ngoba kwabanye wesifazane lokho akunakwenzeka, uma ucabanga ngakho konke okuzokwenzeka futhi konke okwenzekayo ukhululekile akukho ndawo ohlwini lwezinto okufanele uzenze.) Kodwa uma ucabanga ufuna ukulawula ubuhlungu be-contraction ke udinga ukwazi ukuphefumula futhi uphumule. Lapho ukhathazeka kakhulu futhi ushuba, kuya ngokuya kuba kubi kakhulu ukufinyela nobuhlungu, futhi akusho ukuthi kuzoba ubuhlungu obukhiqizayo. Le ndlela yokulawula ubuhlungu isetshenziswa emhlabeni wonke futhi itholakala inenzuzo kakhulu.
Kunezindlela eziningi ongakhetha kuzo zokukusiza ukuthi ubhekane nobuhlungu, futhi nguwena kuphela ozokwazi ukuthi yikuphi okuzokusebenzela kangcono. Zinike isikhathi ngaphambi kosuku olukhulu ukuze uxoxe ngazo zonke izinketho zakho nochwepheshe bakho bezempilo, futhi wenze ucwaningo ukuze ubone ukuthi yini ezokusebenzela.
UJennifer Shakeel ungumbhali futhi owayengumhlengikazi onolwazi lwezokwelapha olungaphezu kweminyaka eyi-12. Njengomama wezingane ezimbili ezimangalisayo onenye esendleleni, ngilapha ukuze ngihlanganyele nani engikufundile ngokuba umzali kanye nenjabulo nezinguquko ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngokubambisana singahleka futhi sikhale futhi sijabule ngokuthi singomama!
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Esinye isizathu sokulinda kuze kube yilapho usunwetshwe cishe ngo-5cm, noma ususebenze kahle, ukuze ungaqedi amandla amanzi okudambisa izinhlungu. Akukho okubi njengokuyisebenzisa kusenesikhathi kakhulu, kuphela ukungabi nayo njengenketho ebheke kuguquko!