Njengoba nje lesi kuyisikhathi esijabulisayo nesikukhathazayo, kunjalo nakubaba. Ngeshwa, sivame ukungayinaki indima kababa nemizwa kababa. Sivele sicabange ukuthi uzoyibheka enze lokho okulindeleke kuyena uma isiqala ukufinyela, ingane ifike kumele izinto zinakekelwe. Khona-ke, masikhulume iqiniso, siyacasuka lapho ubaba engakwenzi esilindele ukuba akwenze. Bantu besifazane, njengoba nidinga ukulungiselelwa ukuba nengane, kanjalo nobaba. Ngakho masimsize.
Into yokuqala okufanele bayazi obaba abakhulelwe ukuthi isibhedlela sikuphi. Ungahleki noma ungabanaki lolu lwazi olubalulekile. Awufuni futhi ukucabanga ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ikuphi nokuthi kufanele aye kuphi. Lapho besihlala khona intokazi ebelethayo iya kwa-ER bese ithunyelwa ukuyoteta nokubeletha. Lapho sihlala khona manje, kanye nesibhedlela esizoya kuso, baneyunithi yezabasebenzi ehlukile, ongena kuyo ngqo. Ngakho ubaba kudingeka azi ukuthi uzofika kanjani lapho evela emsebenzini, futhi kudingeka azi lapho kufanele aye khona.
Ubaba naye udinga ukwazi ukuthi yini elindeleke kuye ngesikhathi sokubeletha nokubeletha. Ingabe uzobe esendlini? Ingabe umbeka ekulawuleni ukugcina abantu bengena futhi baphume egumbini lokudiliva? Ngicabanga ukuthi obaba abaningi bafuna ukuba segunjini lokubelethela, kodwa akubona bonke obaba abakulungele ukubona abalingani babo bebhekene nomsebenzi wangempela wokubeletha nokubeletha. Ngakho-ke khuluma ngalokho okulindele, futhi ulalele ukuthi ufunani, ukuthi yini emkhathazayo.
Ingabe unazo ezinye izingane? Ubani ozobanakekela? Ake sibe namaqiniso, ubaba angaba sendaweni eyodwa ngesikhathi. Ngeke ulindele ukuthi abe sesibhedlela nawe, abe semsebenzini futhi abe sekhaya ukuze anakekele izingane. Ngakho-ke zama ukuhlelela ubaba usizo. Lokhu kungaba ukubuza amalungu omndeni ambalwa noma abangani ukuthi bangakhathazeka yini ngokukwenzela umndeni wakho isidlo sakusihlwa ngenkathi usesibhedlela. Ungase ubuze omunye wabo ukuthi angakwazi yini ukuhlalisa izingane ukuze ubaba abe sesibhedlela nawe nomntwana.
Uziphathe kahle, zama ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi ilondolo isiqedile nokuthi kukhona ukudla ubaba angakulungiselela ukuze azondle yena nezingane ekhaya. Qiniseka ukuthi ubaba uyazi lapho ibhasi ligibela futhi lehlisa izingane ezindala ukuze aqiniseke ukuthi ukhona noma ziyakwazi ukungena endlini. Qiniseka ukuthi kukhona ukudla kwasekuseni kanye nokudla kwasemini ukuze ukudla kwasemini kupakishwe. Noma qiniseka ukuthi izingane zakho zinemali yokuthenga ukudla kwasemini esikoleni.
Qiniseka ukuthi uchitha isikhathi uwedwa nobaba lapho ukhuluma ngosuku olukhulu. Thola ukuthi unakho yini ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka mayelana nosuku lokulethwa. Ngenkathi nizoba abazali kufanele nikhumbule ukuthi niyizithandani kuqala. Angikwazi ukugcizelela lokhu ngokwanele. Ngokuvamile izithandani zigcina zisenkingeni ngemva kokufika kwengane ngenxa yokuthi ubuhlobo abunakwa. Ubaba unezifiso, izidingo, izifiso nezinkathazo futhi unakho okulindele, akufunayo, izidingo, izifiso nezinkathazo futhi ubhekane kangcono nakho njengamanje ukuthi wena nobaba anizukuba sekhasini elilodwa njalo kunoma iyiphi yalezo zinto. Gcina imigudu yokuxhumana ivulekile futhi iqinile. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuthi ungumbhangqwana futhi udinga ukukhuliswa njengoba nje kwenza umntwana.
Ukuze usize ubaba azilungiselele udinga futhi unakekele izinto ezincane eziyisiwula njengokuqinisekisa ukuthi isikhwama sasesibhedlela sikulungele ukuhamba. Qiniseka ukuthi unesikhwama “somntwana olethwa ekhaya” esilungile. Qiniseka ukuthi unesihlalo semoto futhi lowo baba uyazi ukuthi sikuphi. Uma ungenayo lezi zinto ezilungiselelwe ngaphambi isandla ke udinga ukwazisa noma yini ukuthi ubaba kuletha esibhedlela. Akunandaba ukuthi iyafana, noma ngabe ubuyikhethile.
Uma uzinika isikhathi sokukhuluma nomlingani wakho, naka abakushoyo futhi nisebenze ndawonye ukuze nilungele usuku lokulethwa konke kufanele kuhambe kahle.
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