nguJennifer Shakeel
Siyakuhalalisela! Uphumelele ngokusikwa nokubeletha futhi ungumzali oziqhenyayo wenye yezingane ezinhle kakhulu emhlabeni! Kunjalo, manje usungakwazi ukuphefumulela phezulu… awusakhulelwa. Njengoba ulele embhedeni wasesibhedlela, ugajwe yisifiso sokusukuma ubone umzimba wakho ongasakhulelwe. Ucishe wajuluka ngenxa yenjabulo yokugqoka lezo zingubo zangaphambi kokukhulelwa. Lapho ababulali bezinhlungu sebephelile ugxuma embhedeni uyokuma phambi kwesibuko futhi umangale ngomzimba wakho ongasakhulelwe...
Amangale ngempela! Amathuba ukuthi akukona obukulindele. Ngingakutshela ukuthi ngenyanga edlule ngibelethe ingane yami yesithathu, okwakuhleliwe esigcemeni sakwa-C, ngacela udokotela wami ukuthi uma engivula aqhubeke enze i-liposuction futhi anakekele yonke into lapho ekhona. Wahleka futhi wangitshela ukuthi angiwudingi ngempela (umculo ezindlebeni zowesifazane okhulelwe) ukuthi mancane kakhulu amafutha lapho futhi wahlabeka umxhwele. Ngokwemvelo-ke ngase ngibheke ngabomvu ukubuyela lapho ngangikhona ngingakakhulelwa.
Kodwa-ke kwaba khona iqiniso lokuthi umzimba wami awusakhulelwe… kwakungeyona into engangiyethemba… futhi ngamangala kodwa ngabhekana nakho. Okokuqala, ake sicacise into eyodwa, uzophuma esibhedlela isisu sivuvukele. Kungenzeka ukuthi awusakhulelwa kodwa usazobukeka kanjalo. Njengoba lokhu kungase kucasule ukuzwa… cishe uzobukeka ngaleyo ndlela okungenani isonto lonke kuye ngokuthi ubeka isisindo esingakanani ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Kufanele futhi ngisho ukuthi kuzoncika ekutheni yiluphi uhlobo lokulethwa obenalo, okwemvelo noma u-c-section.
Nalu uhlu oluncane lwezinye izinguquko ezivamile ongazilindela ngemva kokubeletha:
Amamaki wokunweba, abesifazane abaningi bayadangala lapho bebona izimpawu ezintsha ezisezithweni ezihlukahlukene zomzimba wabo. Ngizibuka njengezimpawu zokuphumelela. Umyeni wami ubabiza ngokuthi amalangabi ami okunqoba, futhi indodana yami icabanga ukuthi babukeka njengokhula lwasolwandle. Abasuki; zizoshabalala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukusuka kwamagciwane, lokhu kuvamile futhi kungahlala amasonto ambalwa kuze kube amasonto ayisithupha ngemva kokubeletha. Izoshintsha nokho, isuke ekubenibomvu ngokugqamile iye ensundu ngokubomvu iye ekuphumeni okuphuzi ukuze icace. Ukushintsha kombala kubonisa ukuthi isibeletho silulama kangakanani.
Izithukuthuku ebusuku; cha lokhu akulona uphawu lokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini. Umzimba wakho umane ukhipha noma yikuphi uketshezi olwengeziwe olusele ezicutshini ozithole ngesikhathi ukhulelwe.
Ububele besisu izophinde ibe yinkinga, okungenani ekuqaleni. Njengoba umzimba wakho ulungiselela ukuncelisa usana lwakho amabele azovuvukala futhi abe mnene lapho uwathinta. Lokhu ngokuvamile kuzophela ngemva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uncelisa ibele noma cha. Uma ungancelisi futhi ufuna indlela yokuqeda ukungakhululeki ungathola ikhanda leklabishi, ulinqume phakathi bese ulibeka efrijini. Ngemva kwalokho uzothatha amaqabunga amabili ubeke elilodwa ebeleni ngalinye bese ugqoka amaqabunga eklabishi aze abe izinga lokushisa elilingana negumbi bese ufaka amaqabunga amasha esikhundleni sawo. I-estrogen emaqabunga eklabishi izosiza ukomisa ubisi futhi ikhulule ukuvuvukala nokuzwela.
Yamukela lezi zingcezu ezimbalwa zokuhlakanipha njengamanje. Okokuqala, ngeke ulingane nosayizi nokuma okufanayo ngemva kokubeletha owawuyikho ngaphambi kokukhulelwa. Lokhu ngikusho kubo bonke omama, kungakhathalekile ukuthi unezingane ezingaki, ngoba ngeyesithathu ngizabalaze kakhulu. Ngakho lalela iseluleko somyeni wami ohlakaniphile, “Usanda kuba nomntwana, zinike ikhefu.” Okwesibili, kukuthathe izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ukukhulisa ingane ejabule futhi enempilo ngaphakathi kuwe… izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye zezinguquko emzimbeni wakho… lezo zinguquko ngeke ziphele emizuzwini eyisishiyagalolunye ngemva kokubeletha. Okwesithathu, zazisa lezi zikhathi… ngoba ukuphela kwesikhathi empilweni yakho lapho abantu bezokutshela ukuthi ubukeka kahle kanjani… kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubukeka kabi kangakanani.
UJennifer Shakeel ungumbhali futhi owayengumhlengikazi onolwazi lwezokwelapha olungaphezu kweminyaka eyi-12. Njengomama wezingane ezimbili ezimangalisayo onenye esendleleni, ngilapha ukuze ngihlanganyele nani engikufundile ngokuba umzali kanye nenjabulo nezinguquko ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngokubambisana singahleka futhi sikhale futhi sijabule ngokuthi singomama!
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