nguJennifer Shakeel
Uzwile ngabesifazane abahlushwa ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha. Abanye baye benza izindaba ngezinto abazenzile. Ungase ukhumbule ngisho nempikiswano enkulu phakathi kuka-Brooke Shields no-Tom Cruise eminyakeni embalwa edlule mayelana nokuthi kwakuyisimo sangempela noma cha nokuthi kufanele kusetshenziswe yini imithi ukuze udlule kuso. Udokotela wakho angase akhulume nawe kafushane ngakho, bese uyakuxosha. Umcabango ozofika engqondweni yakho uthi, “Ubani emhlabeni ongacindezeleka ngesenzakalo esimangalisa kangaka?” Impendulo iwukuthi, abesifazane abaningi ke uyaqaphela.
Into yokuqala engifuna uqonde ukuthi ukucindezeleka phakathi ne-trimester yokugcina yokukhulelwa kuvamile. Ukushintshashintsha kwama-hormone, ukuphela kwamandla akho, ukungakwazi ukulala kahle, ukuqaphela ukuthi uzoba ngumama omusha (okokuqala noma okwesibili noma okwesithathu) konke ukucwila kungabangela ukuthi owesifazane azizwe ephansi, engafani naye futhi ecindezelekile. Lokhu akusho ukuthi bonke abesifazane bayadlula kulokhu. Angizange ngikwenze kokubili kokuqala kwami, kodwa ngingakutshela nalokhu… emasontweni ambalwa edlule kube nzima.
Qonda ukuthi ukudangala akukapheli ekubeni nengane. Akusho ukuthi awujabule ngenqwaba entsha yenjabulo. Okungaphezulu kokuthi ubuza konke okwenzile esikhathini esedlule kuze kube manje futhi uzibuze ukuthi uzoba yini umama olungile. Impilo yakho isizoshintsha kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho yokuqala noma yesithathu noma yesine. Into embi kakhulu ongayenza emhlabeni ukungavumi nokukhuluma ngendlela ozizwa ngayo. Khuluma nomuntu omethembayo, okhululekile naye, ongeke akwehlulele. Lona kungaba umlingani wakho, udadewenu, umama, abelaphi, umngane omkhulu, udokotela… khuluma nothile. Uma kusho ukuthi uhlezi uchitha intambama ukhala ungazi ukuthi kungani hlala phansi ukhale bese ethatha ucingo amfonele lowo muntu.
Kimi, ngichithe amasonto amabili edlule ngizibuza ukuthi ngingumfazi olungile noma umama olungile noma cha. Kazi isizathu sokuthi lengane ayikaphumi yini ngoba isaba ukuthi ngizoyixova. Lokhu kumkhathazile umyeni wami futhi kwenza udadewethu omncane adlale indima kadadewethu omkhulu njengoba echithe amahora amaningi ocingweni nami ngolunye usuku njengoba ngikhala futhi ngivuma zonke izinkathazo zami futhi angitshele ngokwethembeka, izinto engangidinga ukuzizwa. . Ngimbonga ngendlela emangalisayo umyeni wami kanye nodadewethu.
Manje ake sikhulume ngokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha. Kunezinhlobo ezintathu ezihlukene zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, lokho sonke esikwazi ngokuthi “i-baby blues” okwenzeka ngemva nje kokuzalwa ezinsukwini ezi-5 zokuqala. Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, okuthinta owesifazane oyedwa kwabayi-1, kuqala njengoba umntwana ejabulile futhi ethuthuka ngokushesha. Kukhona futhi i-Puerperal Psychosis, lokhu kwenzeka ezinyangeni ezintathu zokuqala ngemuva kokuzalwa, kuthinta owesifazane oyedwa kwabayi-10 futhi kuyicala elibi kakhulu.
Futhi, ukuthola "i-baby blues" kuyinto evamile, noma yikuphi ukusuka ku-50 kuya ku-75% wabesifazane ababhekana nalesi simo. Ungase uzizwe ukhala, ukhathazekile, ucasuka futhi ungase uzizwe ungenandaba nomntwana. Lokhu kuvame ukuhamba ngokushesha njengoba kwavela. Ngokusobala ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kanye ne-puerperal ukuqhubekela phambili kwe-blues yengane, ngakunye kubi kakhulu kunangaphambili. Kunoma yiziphi izimo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukhulume nomuntu ngendlela ozizwa ngayo, futhi nakanjani uthintane nomsebenzi wakho wokunakekelwa kwezempilo uma izinto zingathuthuki. Kukhona ezinye izinto eziningi ongazenza ukuze usize udlule kulokho okuzwayo.
Okokuqala, udinga ukuzinakekela. Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ingane esanda kuzalwa ingaba nzima njengoba ijabulisa. Izingane ezintsha nazo zidinga kakhulu, okungenza kube nzima kakhulu kuwe ukukhumbula ukuzinika isikhathi sakho. Njengamanje yisikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu sokuthi uqiniseke ukuthi uyakunakekela.
1. Lala ngokusemandleni akho. Uma ingane ilele UDINGA ukulala. Umsebenzi wasendlini ungalinda. Uma uzincisha ubuthongo uzokwenza konke kubonakale kubi kakhulu kunalokho okuyikho. Ukulala kuyindlela yemvelo kamama yokuvumela umzimba nengqondo kululame.
2. Yidla Ngokudla Okunempilo. Nakuba leyo nkomishi ye-caffeine ekuseni ikusiza ukuthi ujabule ngokwanele ukuthi okungenani ukwazi ukubona umhlaba, empeleni ikwenza umonakalo omkhulu kunalokho okuhle. Uma ufana nami, usazolifuna lelo khofi, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uphuza ijusi yewolintshi namanzi amaningi. Yidla izithelo ezintsha nemifino, hhayi amashibhisi kanye nodoti. Umzimba wakho udinga imisoco ukuze uzilungise futhi uqhubeke.
3. Ukuzivocavoca. Yebo, sukuma unyakaze. Hamba uhambe nomntwana, umoya ohlanzekile uzokusiza ukukhulula ukucindezeleka futhi uhlanze ingqondo yakho.
4. Zinike isikhathi “sami”. Lena inzima ngempela, kodwa ibaluleke kakhulu ukuze ugcine ingqondo yakho iphilile. Akukhathalekile ukuthi kukugeza imizuzu engu-10, lapho ukhanyisa khona amakhandlela, udlale umculo opholile futhi ucwiliswe amabhamuza. Yimizuzu eyishumi emayelana nawe.
Nakuba abesifazane abaningi bedlula ngokushesha ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, kubalulekile ukubonisana nomhlinzeki wezempilo uma izinto zingathuthuki noma ziba zimbi kakhulu.
Biography
UJennifer Shakeel ungumbhali futhi owayengumhlengikazi onolwazi lwezokwelapha olungaphezu kweminyaka eyi-12. Njengomama wezingane ezimbili ezimangalisayo onenye esendleleni, ngilapha ukuze ngihlanganyele nani engikufundile ngokuba umzali kanye nenjabulo nezinguquko ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngokubambisana singahleka futhi sikhale futhi sijabule ngokuthi singomama!
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