nguJennifer Shakeel
Iningi labesifazane lizwile ukuthi uma usubelethile ingane yakho, ungase ube nezimpawu zokucindezeleka, noma lokho abaningi abakubiza ngokuthi “i-baby blues”. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kubangelwa izinguquko zamahomoni kanye nokulungiswa komntwana osanda kuzalwa odinga ukunakekelwa amahora angu-24 ngosuku izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto. Iningi labesifazane alilali futhi linamandla amancane, okungase kube nezimpawu zokucindezeleka. Kubalulekile ukuthi abesifazane nemindeni yabo baqaphele izimpawu nezimpawu zesimo esibucayi, ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha.
Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, ukucindezeleka okutholakala ngemva nje kokubeletha, isifo esibi esithinta ikhono lowesifazane lokuqeda imisebenzi yansuku zonke futhi singambangela ukuba adangale. Akukhona nje kuphela ukungakwazi ukunakekela izidingo zakhe siqu, uqala ukungakwazi ukunakekela ingane yakhe, kanye nokuhlangabezana nezidingo zamanye amalungu omndeni. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kowesifazane, amahomoni wesifazane i-estrogen ne-progesterone asemazingeni anyukile. Phakathi namahora angu-24 okuqala ngemva kokubeletha, la mazinga ama-hormone abuyela esimweni esivamile ngokushesha. Abacwaningi abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kwehla okukhulu kwamazinga e-hormone kungase kube imbangela ehamba phambili yokucindezeleka.
Elinye izinga le-hormone lingase libe nomthelela ezimpawu zokucindezeleka. Indlala encane esentanyeni, eyaziwa ngokuthi igilo, ekhiqiza amahomoni ingase ibe nokwehla kokuphuma komchamo lapho ebeletha. Le hormone isiza umzimba wakho ukulawula ukusetshenziswa nokugcinwa kwamandla avela ekudleni. Uma amazinga ehla abe phansi, lokhu kungaholela ezimpawini ezifana nokucindezeleka. Lokhu kubonakala kalula ngokuhlolwa kwegazi okulula futhi kungalawuleka kalula ngemithi.
Kunezinye izici ezingaholela ekucindezelekeni. Ungase ube nokungaqiniseki mayelana nekhono lakho lokuba umama omuhle enganeni yakho, ungase ube nokulindela okungenangqondo kokuthi ubumama buyoba njani kanye nesidingo esingenakwenzeka sokuba uphelele ekunakekeleni kwakho futhi ungase uzizwe ulahlekelwe ubuwena kanye nempilo yakho. ukukhanga kwakho. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bazizwa izinguquko ezithile ezingokomzwelo ngemva kokubeletha. Njengoba amazinga e-hormone omzimba wakho ebuyela kokujwayelekile, futhi ujwayelana nezidingo zansuku zonke zokuba umama omusha, ungase ube nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo futhi ube nemizwa yokudabuka, uzizwe ukhathazekile noma uvele ukhungatheke. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi lezi zimpawu zijwayelekile kakhulu. Ungase uzizwe ufisa ukukhala ngaphansi kwesigqoko futhi ungase ukuthole kunzima ukudla njalo. Futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, uzoba nenkinga yokulala, ngisho nalapho ukhathele. Futhi, kubalulekile ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi lezi zimpawu zijwayelekile ekhaya lengane yakho. Eziningi zalezi zimpawu zizodamba phakathi nezinsuku ezimbalwa, noma zingase zithathe amasonto ambalwa ukuqeda ukuhlakazeka.
Kubikwa ukuthi cishe amaphesenti angu-13 abesifazane abakhulelwe nomama abasanda kubeletha banokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha. Nakuba izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha zifana nemizwa “ye-baby blues”, kunezimpawu okufanele uziqaphele ukuze wazi ukuthi kungakuhle nini ukuthintana nodokotela wakho. Izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha ziqala lapho imizwa yengane eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ingadambi ngemva kwamasonto amabili kuya kwamathathu. Imizwa yokucindezeleka nokuphelelwa ithemba iba namandla kakhulu futhi ikuvimbele ekwenzeni ngisho nemisebenzi elula kakhulu kungaba sekhaya noma emsebenzini. Unesizathu esincane noma awunaso nhlobo sokuzinakekela wena noma ingane yakho. Ngisho nomsebenzi olula kungase kungenzeki ukuwuqeda. Ezinye zalezi zimpawu zingase zibe usongo. Ungase ube nemicabango yokulimaza wena noma ingane yakho imbala. Kungase kube nezikhathi zokunganaki ngokuphelele ingane yakho nalapho kungekho khona intshisekelo yokunakekela ukunakekela ingane yakho.
Uma uhlangabezana nalezi zimpawu futhi sekudlule amasonto amabili kuya kwayi-2, kufanele ubize udokotela wakho ukuze nixoxe ngezimpawu zakho nokuthi yini engenziwa ukuze akusize unqobe lokhu kucindezeleka. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukucindezeleka ukungalingani kwamakhemikhali ebuchosheni bakho, futhi akukwenzi umuntu omubi, noma umama omubi. Kuzobaluleka kakhulu ukuthi ukhulume nochwepheshe bakho bezempilo ukuze ubone ukuthi iyiphi inkambo engcono kakhulu ongayithatha ukuze uphile kahle ukuze ukwazi ukuzinakekela wena nengane yakho. Khumbula ukuphumula uma ukwazi futhi uzame ukukhumbula ukuthi akekho umama ophelele. Gcina imigudu yokuxhumana ivulekile nozakwenu, umndeni wakho nabangane bakho futhi lapho becela ukukusiza, babambe ngakho. Uma umhlinzeki wakho wokunakekelwa kwezempilo ekunikeza imithi yiphuze njengoba uyalelwe.
Biography
UJennifer Shakeel ungumbhali futhi owayengumhlengikazi onolwazi lwezokwelapha olungaphezu kweminyaka eyi-12. Njengomama wezingane ezimbili ezimangalisayo onenye esendleleni, ngilapha ukuze ngihlanganyele nani engikufundile ngokuba umzali kanye nenjabulo nezinguquko ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngokubambisana singahleka futhi sikhale futhi sijabule ngokuthi singomama!
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