Njengobaba kabili, ngingakutshela ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho siqu ukuthi ziningi izinjabulo zokuba ubaba okhulelwe, njengokubona i-ultrasound yakho yokuqala, noma ukuzwa ingane yakho ikhahlela okokuqala ngqa. Nokho, cishe kunzima ukuqonda ngempela ukuthi umama wengane yakho ubhekene nani ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Njengoba ungakaze ukhulelwe, uzizwa sengathi ungase ungaxhumani nomkakho futhi wazi kahle ukuthi yini ongamenzela yona. Ukulungiselela ezinye zezinkinga nezingcindezi ezibhekene nomlingani wakho kuyindlela enhle yokuthi uxhumeke kuye kanye nengane yakho. Izikhathi eziningi kulula ukugxila ezinguqukweni zomzimba owesifazane abhekana nazo ngesikhathi ekhulelwe, hhayi izinguquko ezingokomzwelo namahomoni. Uma sizilungiselela ukuqaphela zonke izinguquko ezenzekayo, singakha ubuhlobo obuseduze naye futhi ngokunokwenzeka sisize ekudambiseni okunye ukucindezeleka angase abhekane nakho.
Phakathi nalezo zinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala zokukhulelwa kungaba i-roller coaster komama, kanye nobaba. Ukushintsha kwamahomoni kukodwa kungaletha ubuntu obuhlukahlukene okungenzeka asizange sihlangane nabo ngaphambili. Umlingani wakho angase athambekele kakhulu ekukhaleni, futhi angacasuka ngezinye izikhathi futhi angaqondi nokuthi kungani. Lezi zinguquko ezingokomzwelo zijwayelekile kakhulu, futhi ungasiza ngokuqonda nje uma zenzeka. Zama ukuvuleleka nokwamukela izidingo zakhe futhi umnikeze induduzo lapho eyidinga. Ukwanga okuqinile kanye nokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” kungasiza kakhulu ukuthobisa umkakho. Ukubonisa uthando nothando kuyindlela enhle yokuthi ubonise ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi ubhekene nezinguquko eziningi ezingokomzwelo.
Uma ngesizathu esithile umkakho ecasukile noma ecasukile, ukulalela ngempela lokho akushoyo kuyindlela enhle yokubonisa ukusekela kwakho futhi uzuze ukuzethemba kwakhe. Mbuze ukuthi kungani ezizwa ngale ndlela, futhi lapho ekutshela, phinda futhi kuye ukuze azi ukuthi ulalele ngempela. Lesi siqinisekiso sizomsiza ukuthi abelane nawe kabanzi ngendlela azizwa ngayo futhi kusize ubudlelwano benu bukhule. Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayenzela umlingani wakho ukwakha ukuzethemba kwakhe nokuzethemba. Ukukhulelwa yisikhathi lapho abesifazane abaningi bezizwa bengathandeki, bequnjelwa futhi becasukile. Uma azi ukuthi ulalele futhi unake izidingo zakhe, uzomnikeza isiqinisekiso sokuthi udinga ukumsiza azizwe njengaye.
Lokhu akufanele kube ubuhlakani, kodwa enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu esingazenzela amakhosikazi ethu ukusiza ngokusemandleni ethu ngenqubo yempilo yansuku zonke. Umkakho cishe ukhathele futhi angasebenzisa izandla ezingeziwe endlini. Uma kunjalo, ngena futhi usize ngokuwasha noma ekuphekeni. Phakathi nalezo zinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala angase angakuthandi ukupheka uma “enesifo sasekuseni” futhi uma ungena kuzomsiza azi ukuthi uyamkhathalela. Noma yini ongayenza ukuze umsize usuku lonke izobongwa. Uma wena nkosikazi uthanda ukwenza lezo zinto futhi ungazizwa ungaphezu kwamandla, ngakho-ke kufanele umvumele azenze.
Njengoba izinyanga zihamba futhi umkakho eqala ukubonakala kakhulu, angase akhathazeke ngokweqile ngokubukeka kwakhe. Kubalulekile ukuthi abone ukuthi awucabangi ukuthi ukhuluphele. Amadoda amaningi acabanga ukuthi amakhosikazi awo akhulelwe abukeka emuhle. Babona ukukhanya ebusweni babo bazi ukuthi bahle. Kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume naye ngale mizwa yokukhangwa. Kwazise ukuthi muhle kangakanani. Mazise ukuthi usamthola ekhanga. Bonisa uthando lwakho kuye ngokumphathela izimbali, noma incwadi angathanda ukuyifunda. Manje wena umlingani wakho ongcono kunanoma ubani, futhi noma ngabe yini angayazisa njengophawu lokuzinikela kwakho kuye kuyisinyathelo esibheke endleleni efanele!
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumuntu wezandla noma cha, zama ukuhileleka ekuhlobiseni igumbi lomntwana. Lesi yisikhathi esihle sokuhlangana nomkakho nengane yakho. Ukwenza izinqumo ngegumbi lomntwana kuzokunika isikhathi osidinga kakhulu sokuchitha ndawonye. Uma umntwana esezelwe, nizoba nesikhathi esincane ninodwa njengombhangqwana, futhi manje yisikhathi sokusebenzisa isikhathi senu labashadikazi. Ngeke nje ujabulele inkampani yomunye nomunye, kodwa uzobe ulungiselela indawo ekhethekile lapho ingane oyidalile izolala futhi idlale. Ngemva kokuba igumbi lipendwe futhi umbhede uhlangene, wena nomkakho ningavakashela igumbi ndawonye futhi nihlanganyele imicabango yenu namaphupho ngale ngane entsha.
Njengoba umkakho esondela ekupheleni kokukhulelwa kwakhe, angase afune ukuya emakilasini okubeletha. Lezi zifundo zenzelwe ukusiza umkakho ukuthi abhekane nobuhlungu, kanye nenjabulo yokubeletha. Nakuba lezi zifundo zimsiza umkakho, zihloselwe ukukusiza nawe baba kulesi sikhathi esiyigugu. Bazokunika amandla ukuze ukwazi ukusiza umkakho phakathi nalesi sikhathi soshintsho. Bazokufundisa ukuthi ube “ngumqeqeshi” wakhe phakathi nale nqubo. Okuhle kakhulu ngala makilasi ukuthi azokunikeza amathuluzi adingekayo ukuze ugcine umkakho ezolile ngesikhathi ebeletha. Amakilasi okubeletha ahloselwe ukukunikeza ukuzethemba okudingayo ukuze usize umkakho alethe le nqwaba yenjabulo emhlabeni.
Akufanele nje ulungele ukukhulelwa nokubeletha kwengane yakho, kodwa ufuna ukuhlonyiselwa ukusiza umkakho njengoba uqala ukunakekela usana lwakho. Phakathi namakilasi okubeletha uyophinde ube nesikhathi sokufunda ngokunakekelwa komntwana osanda kuzalwa. Umkakho uyobe ekhathele futhi ecindezelekile ngokomzwelo ngemva kokubeletha futhi uzodinga lonke usizo ongamnika lona. Umzimba wakhe uzobhekana noshintsho lwamahomoni njengoba ebuyela esimweni sakhe sangaphambi kokukhulelwa. Ukumsiza ukuthi anakekele ingane uma ukwazi, kuzomnika ukuphumula nesikhathi sokululama asidingayo. Ngisho noma ingane yakho incela ibele, ungaba yingxenye enkulu yale nqubo. Ungashintsha amanabukeni, ubambe futhi unyakazise ingane yakho. Njengoba umkakho ezobe ekhathele ngalesi sikhathi, thatha isikhathi esengeziwe utotose umkakho. Indlela enhle ongakwenza ngayo lokhu iwukumlungisela ukudla, futhi uma umntwana ekhala ngesikhathi sokudla, mnakekele ukuze aqede ukudla. Uyoba neminyaka yokudla ephazamisekile, futhi noma yiluphi usizo enimnikeza lona kule ndawo ngeke lube lungaziswa.
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