Ukukhulelwa kuyinto enhle. Nginenkinga yokubeka ngamazwi ukuthi kumangalisa kangakanani. Udala impilo. Kuyajabulisa futhi ngasikhathi sinye kungaba yi-nerve wracking. Ngakho yiziphi ezinye zezinto ezivame ukukhathazeka lapho ukhulelwe? Akukhona nje ukuthi umzimba wakho uyashintsha, uyakhula, futhi uzwa izinhlungu ezintsha ongakaze uzizwe ngaphambili, ingqondo yakho iphinde ibe nezinguquko obungazilungiselelanga. Awuhlanyi, lokhu obhekene nakho kujwayelekile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokhu ukukhulelwa kwakho kokuqala noma okwesithathu, izinhlungu, izinhlungu, ukukhathazeka kanye nemizwelo konke okungalindelekile futhi yebo, kujwayelekile.
Ngizokhuluma ngezinkinga ezivame kakhulu abesifazane ababa nazo uma bekhulelwe. Okokuqala nje abesifazane abaningi abakhulelwe abacindezeleka ngakho ukuzuza isisindo. Ngikhumbula lapho ngikhulelwe okokuqala, eminyakeni engaba ngu-16 edlule odokotela babebuka isisindo owawukhuluphele, kodwa abazange bakutshele ukuthi kufanele uzuze kakhulu. Ngakho ngokukhulelwa kwami kokugcina okwaphela ezinyangeni ezi-5 kuphela ezedlule, ukuzuza kwesisindo kuyinkinga futhi eyodwa eqashwe udokotela.
Okokuqala kufanele ukhuluphale; ukukhulelwa okujwayelekile okunempilo kudinga ukuzuza kwesisindo. Odokotela abaningi bazokutshela ukuthi isilinganiso esamukelekayo sesisindo sokugqoka singamakhilogremu angu-28. Ngaphambi kokuthi ucasuke ngokwengeza amakhilogremu angu-28 engeziwe kuhlaka lwakho bheka indlela isisindo esiphuka ngayo:
Ingane: 6 ½ kuya ku-8 amakhilogremu
Amabele: 1 kuya ku-3 amakhilogremu
Isibeletho: 1 ½ kuya ku-2 amakhilogremu
I-Placenta: 1 kuya ku-1 ½ amakhilogremu
I-Amniotic Fluid: 2 amakhilogremu
Okunye uketshezi: amakhilogremu angu-2 kuya kwangu-4
Amafutha Engeziwe: amakhilogremu angu-6 kuya kwangu-8 (lokhu kuyafana nenzuzo yesisindo esithandekayo kusukela ngamaholide asebusika.)
Umthamo Wegazi Owengeziwe: 3 kuya ku-4 amakhilogremu
Ngakho-ke njengoba ubona ukuthi akuwona amafutha owafakayo. Yizingxenye ezidingekayo ekukhulelweni okunempilo.
Ukukhathazeka okulandelayo ubuhlungu ezinqulwini, emadolweni nasemhlane. Cha awumdala, ukhulelwe futhi uma usunengane, lezo zinhlungu zizophela. Uma ukhulelwe imigqa yakho ivame ukuthamba kancane futhi iba buthakathaka kancane ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa kwakho. Lapho usukhulile, nenani lokukhulelwa oye wakhulelwa lingandisa ubuhlungu obuzwayo, ngezinye izikhathi kwenze kube nzima ukusebenza. Uma lokho kwenzeka, khuluma nodokotela wakho. Yazi ukuthi kunezinto ongazenza ukuze ubhekane nobuhlungu okufaka phakathi ukushintsha indlela ohlala ngayo, ovuka ngayo, nokulala kanye nomsebenzi owuhlanganyelayo.
Okunye ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwabesifazane abakhulelwe ngendlela abazizwa ngayo. Abanye besifazane bazozizwa sengathi balahlekelwa izingqondo zabo, kodwa abanye bazozizwa bekhala, kanti abanye bazoba ne-fuse emfushane. Singayibonga yonke leyo mizwa ethandekayo kuwo wonke amazinga e-hormone ashintshayo nashintshayo emzimbeni wethu njengoba sithuthuka ekukhulelweni kwethu. Lokho kwenezela nama-aches nezinhlungu, nokuncipha kokulala okutholayo njengoba ukhulelwa kakhulu kuzokwenza kube kubi nakakhulu. Nakuba ngangingaboni ukuthi kukhona okuthinta imizwa ekukhulelweni kwami kokuqala okubili, empeleni ngangimncane kakhulu futhi lokho kukhulelwa kwenzeka eminyakeni eminingana edlule, kulokhu kokugcina… Ngaba ne-fuse emfushane ngesikhathi ngikhulelwe. Ngithole ukuthi izinga lami lokubekezelela line... singasho, lehle kakhulu. Ngangazi ukuthi kuyenzeka futhi ngaxolisa ezinganeni zami ezindala ngakho, ngehluleka ukuzibamba. Ngaba nezinsuku zami lapho ngangizizwa njengewele lami elibi… kwase kuba nezinsuku engangivamile ngazo. Ngake ngaba nendodakazi yethu… iwele lami elibi lahamba.
Abesifazane abaningi, futhi bavumelane nabalingani babo nabo, bakhathazeke ngezinguquko ekamelweni njengoba owesifazane ekhulelwa kakhulu. Ngifuna ukusho kuwo wonke umuntu ofunda lokhu, ukuthi kuphephe ngokuphelele ukuthi imisebenzi yasekamelweni iqhubeke inqobo nje uma owesifazane ephilile futhi ukukhulelwa kungenazinkinga. Njengoba isisu sikhula kuzodingeka udale ngokwengeziwe, kodwa emibhangqwaneni eminingi lesi yisikhathi sokwanda kokusondelana kanye nomlingo ekamelweni. Khuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana nokukhathazeka eninakho nobabili. Xoxani ngokuthi yini entofontofo nengenakho. Ungacabangi ukuthi noma yimuphi umlingani uzokwazi okufanele akwenze nokungafanele akwenze.
Ngithembe uma ngikutshela ukuthi uzizwa ujwayelekile.
Uma ukhathazekile ngendlela ozizwa ngayo noma izinto ozizwayo khuluma nodokotela wakho futhi ukhulume nomngane okhulelwe noma okade ekhulelwe.
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