Ukukhulelwa - Izinsuku Zokuqala Ezingu-30 Ngemva Kokuzalwa

Halala, usanda kubeletha ingane emangalisayo! Kodwa-ke, kumnandi njengokubeletha, inqubo kodwa ukucindezeleka okukhulu nokushaqeka emzimbeni wakho. Nawa amanye amathiphu okubuyisela lowo mzimba esimweni.

Ingane esanda kuzalwa nomama

nguJennifer Shakeel

Halala, usanda kubeletha ingane emangalisayo! Kodwa-ke, nakuba kuhle kakhulu ukubeletha, le nqubo ibeka ingcindezi enkulu nokushaqeka emzimbeni wakho. Kunzima ukuchaza zonke izinguquko eziyinkimbinkimbi nezincane umzimba wakho okufanele udlule kuzo ukuze ubuyisele umzimba wakho esimweni sangaphambi kokukhulelwa. Ngaphezu kokululama ekukhulelweni, umzimba kufanele ululame ekusindweni kwangempela nasekuzalweni komntwana, uphaphame ngaso sonke isikhathi ubusuku nemini, ukuphelelwa ubuthongo obukhulu, nokuncelisa. Kholwa noma ungakholwa umzimba wakho ubhekana nezinguquko eziningi ezinsukwini zokuqala ezingu-30.

Yonke “imisebenzi” umzimba wakho onayo manje ivame ukubhekiselwa ekulinganeni kokudla okunempilo kokugijima uhhafu wemarathon… NSUKU ZONKE. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi omama abasanda kubeletha baqonde ukuthi umsebenzi omningi wenziwa ngaphandle kokuqaphela, ngakho-ke akumangalisi ukuthi umzimba kamama nemizwelo ingaphansi kokucindezeleka futhi ngokuvamile kusishiya sizizwa sibuthakathaka ngalesi sikhathi. Ngakho-ke, izinkinga ezingokomzwelo, zomzimba kanye nezinye zingavela - okuthi uma zingaphathwa kahle zingase zibe izinkinga zesikhathi eside. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi amaphesenti aphezulu omama abasha emasikweni asentshonalanga banezinkinga zempilo nezocansi izinyanga ezimbalwa kuya onyakeni ngemva kokubeletha, futhi babike lokhu "njengokuvamile".

Konke lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi ngabesifazane abazalwa kanzima. Ukuzalwa okunzima akuhlobene neze nesenzakalo somzimba njengezinyembezi noma isigaba C. Kungase kube yinoma yini eyenza umama azizwe ehlukumezekile ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo. Umama osanda kuzalwa angase abe nomuzwa wokuthi ubelethe kanzima ngenxa yokuthi ukuzalwa kwakhe akuzange kuhambe ngokohlelo lwakhe, izisebenzi zosizo ngesikhathi sokuzalwa zazingenamusa noma zingenalo usizo, noma kungenzeka ukuthi uke wabhekana nomuzwa wokulahlekelwa ukuzilawula.

Ngaphandle kwalokhu umzimba okwenzayo wodwa, kukhona nezinguquko abhekana nazo owesifazane osanda kubeletha. Kubandakanya kodwa kungagcini nje kokuthi:

Izinkinga ezingokomzimba
- Ukukhathala ngokomzimba ngemva kokubeletha
- Umzimba usesimweni sokushaqeka ngenxa yoshintsho olukhulu olungazelelwe
- Ukuzizwa ukhuluphele
- Ubuhlungu nobuhlungu (iqolo / intamo / i-pelvis ebuhlungu njll)
- Ukukhathazeka ngendlela umzimba wakho obukeka ngayo
- Ukupholisa izibazi/izinyembezi
Izinkinga Zomzwelo
- Ukuhlangana nomntwana omusha
- Ukukhungatheka ngethemba lokunakekela ingane entsha
- Ukuzizwa unqanyuliwe empilweni yakho (Uzizwa unqanyuliwe kumlingani wakho wempilo/umyeni kanye nomndeni/abangane)
- I-baby blues - ebangelwa ukushintsha kwama-hormone ngemuva kokubeletha - ithumela omama abasha abampofu ku-rollercoaster yemizwa.
- Ethuswe ukuntula inkululeko kungazelelwe
- Ukhathazekile ngoba awuhlanyi othandweni ngokushesha nengane yakho - noma ngokuvamile awuzizwa ungahambisani nokuba ngumama
Umuzwa Wecala
- Beyond baby blues – abanye besifazane bazobhekana nezinga eliphakeme lokucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha , babhekane nanoma yini kusukela ezimpawu zokukhathazeka ngokweqile, ukungakwazi ukulala, ukungakwazi ukudla, ukukhathazeka okungenangqondo nokungaduduzeki ngempilo yengane, kanye nezikhathi ezithile, nemicabango yokuzibulala. Ngokuvamile lezi zihlobene kokubili ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba emzimbeni.
Abanye omama bachaza ukuba nezinkinga ezilandelayo ngemva kokubeletha:
- Ayikwazi ukubhekana nezindaba zasekhaya
- Ugajwe ukuthi kunjani ukuba nengane
Ukuvakashela kabusha izithombe zomsebenzi
Ubunzima ebudlelwaneni bakho nomlingani wakho
Ukuntuleka kwe-libido
Ukungafuni ukuthintana ngokomzimba kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo
Ukukhathazeka ngokuncelisa/ukuncelisa ingane
Ukulahlwa

Izinkinga ezivamile ezachazwa omama ngenyanga yokuqala zazihlanganisa: ukukhathala, ukopha, ukuqunjelwa, ukungakuthandi ukudla, ubunzima bokuphefumula, ukushisa okushisayo, nezinkinga zamabele futhi lezi zingakhula zibe izinkinga zesikhathi eside uma umama engasizwa ukuthi aphumule ngokwanele ukuze aphumule. philisa.
Ngakho-ke yini okufanele uyenze ukuze usize umzimba wakho nengqondo yakho ukubhekana futhi ubhekane nazo zonke izinguquko ezenzekayo njengoba usubelethile? Ngibale izincomo ezimbalwa. Kuyavunywa ukuthi ezinye zilungile kakhulu futhi ziyasebenza, kodwa uma ungazijwayeza ngisho nethiphu elilodwa elilungile lizosiza inqubo yakho yokutakula.

Isincomo sokuqala empeleni yikhasi lokuthola kabusha kwamasiko amaningi asempumalanga. Okuyinkathi “yokuvalelwa” izinsuku ezingama-30. Udokotela wakho uzokutshela ukuthi kufanele ukuthathe kalula emasontweni ayi-6 okuqala noma kunjalo ukuze umzimba wakho ululame. Ngiphakamisa ukuthatha ikhefu eliphelele kubo bonke kodwa uzinakekele wena nomntwana ezinsukwini ezingu-30 ezilandelayo. Manje ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kuzwakala njengesikhathi esiningi sokukhipha empilweni yakho evamile kanye nezibopho zakho kwabanye abantu, kodwa uma ucabanga ukuthi lesi yisikhathi esiyisisekelo esingaba nomthelela empilweni yakho nempilo yakho eminyakeni engu-30+ ezayo, nakanjani kanye nokutshalwa kwezimali okufanele kucatshangelwe.

Ungasebenzisa futhi I-Massage. Ukubhucunga kucatshangwa ukuthi kusiza ukususa ukungcola emzimbeni kamama ngemva kokubeletha. Futhi kuzosiza inqwaba yezinto kusuka ekulinganiseni ama-hormone, ukukhulisa amasosha akho omzimba. Ngincoma ukuthi ungazinikeli nje kuphela massage nsuku zonke kodwa futhi massage baby. Uma uthanda ungaqasha ama-doulas noma ushayele isikole sasendaweni sokubhucunga umzimba bese ubuza ukuthi bakhona yini abafundi abakhona ukwenza imassage njengengxenye yesitifiketi sabo. Nawa amathiphu ambalwa asheshayo mayelana ne-massage ukuze ikusize uphulukise:

I-massage kufanele yenziwe ngamafutha e-sesame acindezelwe ngekhwalithi ephezulu. Kukhona futhi izingxube ezikhethekile namalungiselelo ongazithenga ngokusekelwe kuzindlela zokupheka ze-ayuverdic zasendulo eziqondiswe kumama kanye nengane.
Akufanele uqine kakhulu - ufuna ukusekela ukuphulukiswa komzimba, ungangezeli ekulimaleni kwamabele.
Qinisekisa ukuthi igumbi lifudumele futhi alinawo ama-drafts
Hlanza usuka ekhanda bese usebenza uye phansi usebenzisa ukunyakaza okuyindilinga

Qiniseka ukuthi umsoco uyazinakekela. Phakathi nenkathi yesikhathi ngokushesha ngemva kokuba umama ebelethile futhi umzimba wakhe usubuyela kuwo wonke umsebenzi wawo ovamile, isimiso sokugaya ukudla sintekenteke kakhulu. Omama abaningi abasanda kuzalwa babika ukuthi abakudlayo kunomthelela omkhulu endleleni abazizwa ngayo kanye nomthelela oqondile enhlalakahleni yengane uma incela ibele. Emasikweni asendulo ase-Indian Ayuvedic kukholakala ukuthi ukwesekwa okufanele kokugaya ukudla komama abasanda kuzalwa kungaba nomthelela omkhulu ekukhuleni komntwana, ukuphulukiswa okujwayelekile kanye nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha komama abasanda kuzalwa. Ngeshwa amamodeli amaningi ezokwelapha esimanje awayifaki noma ayiqondi le migomo.

Eqinisweni kunenkolelo yokuthi lokho okudliwa ngumama kulawo masonto ambalwa okuqala kungathinta izisekelo zakhe zokululama iminyaka engu-30+.

Kufanele futhi uqinisekise ukuthi uthola uketshezi olwanele. Ngeke ukholwe inani lomama abangitshela ukuthi bahlushwa imizwa emikhulu yokuphelelwa ngamanzi emzimbeni kuleyo nyanga yokuqala ngemva kokubeletha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuhlobene nenqubo yokuzala, noma izimfuno ezintsha emzimbeni ukuze ukhiqize ubisi, kubalulekile ukuthi omama bahlale bewaphuza kakhulu amanzi.

Uyakholwa noma ungakholwa, empeleni kungcono ukuthi impilo yakho itshele bonke abangaba izivakashi ukuthi ungathanda ukuthi bakunikeze isikhashana ngaphambi kokuthi beze bazovakasha. Njengamanje yisikhathi sokuthi ululame futhi ingane yazi indawo yayo entsha, ngendlela esiyithanda ngayo, isikhathi sokubukisa ngengane empeleni singemuva kwezinsuku zokuqala ezingama-30.

Yazi ukuthi kungathatha cishe unyaka wonke ukuze umzimba wakho ubuyele kwesijwayelekile ngemva kokubeletha. Zinike isikhathi futhi uqale inqubo yokuphulukisa ngonyawo olufanele.

Biography
UJennifer Shakeel ungumbhali futhi owayengumhlengikazi onolwazi lwezokwelapha olungaphezu kweminyaka eyi-12. Njengomama wezingane ezimbili ezimangalisayo onenye esendleleni, ngilapha ukuze ngihlanganyele nani engikufundile ngokuba umzali kanye nenjabulo nezinguquko ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngokubambisana singahleka futhi sikhale futhi sijabule ngokuthi singomama!