Lapho ukhulelwe futhi ulungiselela umntwana, kunezinto ezimbalwa abazali abaningi abazenzayo ukuze uzilungiselele. Abazali abakhulelwe bachitha isikhathi esiningi belungiselela ikamelo lomntwana, besebenzelana nomshuwalense, bekhulisa noma bethola umshwalense wokuphila kanye nokuthatha amakilasi okukhulisa izingane. Nokho, abaningi abachithi nhlobo isikhathi belungiselela umshado wabo ukuze kufike umntwana.
Abazali abangenakubalwa (uma kungebona bonke abazali) bazokutshela ukuthi umshado wabo washintsha kakhulu ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana. Eziningi zalezi zinguquko zinhle, kodwa ezinye azilungile. Kwezinye izimo, ubudlelwano bunganakwa noma kungabikho ukuvumelana ezinqumweni nezibopho zomzali. Lokhu kuvame ukuzala ukucasuka.
Eqinisweni, emibhangqwaneni eminingi, izingane azibaluliwe phezulu ohlwini mayelana nokugcwaliseka komshado. A Ucwaningo olwenziwa yi-Pew Center futhi kwabikwa kuyi-Washington Post yabonisa ukuthi izingane azikho phezulu ohlwini mayelana nomshado ophumelelayo. Izici ezinjengokwethembeka, ubulili, ukwabiwa kwemisebenzi yasekhaya kanye nezindaba zezomnotho zahlelwa ngaphambi kokuba nezingane njengesici somshado ophumelelayo.
Kunezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza ukulungisa ubudlelwano bakho nezingane futhi ugweme izingibe zokwengeza ubuzali ekuguquguqukeni kobudlelwano benu. Isinyathelo esisodwa esibalulekile okufanele usithathe ukunaka omunye nomunye. Kulula ngendlela engakholakaliyo ukunganaki uma usuku lwakho selumayelana nokuncelisa, ukushintsha inabukeni nokulalisa ingane. Kudinga umzamo oqinile ukuze uhlale uxhumekile komunye nomunye.
Enye indlela imibhangqwana eminingi ebhekana ngayo nalokhu iwukusetha ubusuku obujwayelekile bezinsuku. Imvamisa ingahluka kusukela kanye ngesonto kuye kanye ngenyanga, kodwa kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi kude nengane futhi ugxile komunye nomunye. Ngenkathi usakhulelwe futhi kungadingeki ukuthi uhlele umzanyana, qala isiko lokulala ebusuku. Kuyoba lula ukuqhubeka nayo ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana.
Njengoba izindaba ezinjengokwabiwa kwemisebenzi yasekhaya kanye nezici zezomnotho zisezingeni eliphezulu ohlwini lokwaneliseka komshado, naka lezi zici. Mayelana nokusabalalisa imisebenzi, kuvamile ukuthi umama nobaba bangaboni ngaso linye. Kwezinye izimo, indoda inomuzwa wokuthi njengoba umkayo esekhaya usuku lonke, kuwumsebenzi wakhe. Lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele ngengane esanda kuzalwa endlini.
Kwezinye izimo, owesifazane usebenza ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa futhi abuyele emsebenzini ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane. Ucwaningo selukhombise kaningi ukuthi abesifazane bayaqhubeka nokwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya, ngisho noma besebenza ngokugcwele. Lokhu kungase kube umphumela wamaphethini avela emindenini yendabuko aphindaphindiwe emshadweni. Zombili lezi zimo zingadala ukucasuka enkosikazini.
Ungawugwema lo mgodi ngokuxoxa ngokusatshalaliswa kwemisebenzi ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe. Thembeka ngalokho okulindele futhi uqhamuke nohlelo oluvumelana nozakwethu bobabili. Ukulungisa le mininingwane kusenesikhathi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokugwema ukuthi omunye womshado azizwe ethukuthele futhi ecasukile kamuva.
Yenza okufanayo ngezindaba zezomnotho, amafilosofi okukhulisa izingane nezinye izindaba ezishisayo. Chithani isikhathi nixoxa ngezimali nokuthi zizoshintsha kanjani ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana. Dala ibhajethi bese unquma ukuthi imali izosetshenziswa kanjani ndawonye. Uma unemibono ehlukene mayelana nokunakekelwa kwezinsana, chitha isikhathi ufunda futhi ukhulume ngakho ngenkathi usakhulelwe. Lokhu kungagwema ukunganeliseki nokungavumelani kamuva.
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