nguJennifer Shakeel
Enye yezinto ezibuhlungu kakhulu ezenzeka uma ukhulelwe ukuphuphunyelwa yisisu. Ukuphuphunyelwa kwesisu yilokho okwenzeka uma umama elahlekelwa isisu emasontweni angu-20 okuqala ekhulelwe, uma ulahlekelwa umbungu ngemva kwamasonto angu-20 kuthathwa njengokuzalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi noma ingane engakazalwa. Konke lokhu kubi futhi kungalimaza noma yimuphi umama okhulelwe. Qaphela ngithi mama, hhayi umuntu wesifazane njengoba izindawo eziningi zizosho. Nganquma ukusebenzisa umama ngokusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami ngokuphuphunyelwa kwesisu.
Kulabo kini abafunde ezinye izingcezu zami zokukhulelwa bayazi ukuthi ngonyaka odlule ngakhulelwa isikhathi eside futhi ngezinye izikhathi okunzima okwaphumela ekubeni ngomunye wamantombazane ayigugu kakhulu engake ngabazi. Okungenzeka abaningi bangakwazi ukuthi kwasithatha isikhathi esingangonyaka mina nomyeni wami ukuba ngikhulelwe futhi saphuphunyelwa yizisu endleleni.
Udokotela enganginaye ngaleso sikhathi wakuchitha ngokuphelele. Wangitshela ukuthi cishe ngangingakhulelwe nhlobo, nokuthi kwakuyinkathi enzima nje. Kodwa-ke, mina nomyeni wami sase sizama isikhathi eside, futhi ngaleso sikhathi… sasithathe ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa oku-4 okuhlukene phakathi nesonto…ngalinye lalinegciwane. Ngabe sengingenwa umkhuhlane, izinga lokushisa lalingu-108 futhi ngaphatheka kabi. Ngezwa ngicindezeleka… futhi kwakukhona igazi eliningi… kodwa kwakungelona igazi kuphela. Manje, ngengane yami yokuqala ngopha phakathi nesikhathi sonke sokukhulelwa, kodwa lokhu kwakuhlukile futhi yilokho engakutshela udokotela. Ubani owabe esengiqhumisa saya kohlola umchamo ehhovisi kwathiwa awunayo. Ngaquleka lapho ngiphuma ehhovisi, mina nomyeni wami sikhala… sidangele.
Kwaze kwaba yilapho sengikhulelwe futhi, nokuya kudokotela omusha kanye nodokotela wofuzo ngibatshela bobabili ngokwenzekile lapho udokotela wangibheka wathi, “Wawukhulelwe,” uchwepheshe wolibofuzo wachaza ukuthi mhlawumbe kwenzekeni futhi sabheka. ukuthi kuzophinde kwenzeke noma cha. Kumele ukwazi lokhu, u-90% wokuphuphunyelwa yizisu akunakugwenywa. Akukho ongakwenza ukuze uzivikele. Ngokusho kweGeneticists, baningi abesifazane abaphuphunyelwa yizisu futhi ababoni nakancane ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka ngokushesha ngemva kokuba iqanda selivundisiwe. Bayibuke bavele bacabange ukuthi banesikhathi esindayo kunokwejwayelekile.
Iningi lalezo ziphumo zibangelwa izinkinga ze-chromosomal ku-fetus, futhi ngokuvamile azihlanganise lutho nawe. Kukhona nokuphuphunyelwa yizisu okwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu zangaphandle njengokungondleki kahle, ukutheleleka, ukucindezeleka, ukuhlukumezeka komama, noma ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa notshwala. Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi izinto ezijwayelekile ezifana nocansi, ukuzilolonga, isicanucanu nokuhlanza noma ukuphakamisa izinto ezisindayo ngokuvamile azibangeli ukuphuphunyelwa kwesisu ngaphandle kwalapho usengozini enkulu. Kubalulekile ukuthi uma uzama ukukhulelwa noma usola ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ukhulelwe ukhulume nodokotela wakho ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Iningi lokuphuphuma kwezisu, kungakhathaliseki imbangela, kwenzeka phakathi kweviki lesi-7 nele-12 lokukhulelwa. Futhi uma kuzokwenzeka akukho lutho umuntu angakwenza ukukuvimba. Lapho siphinde sikhulelwe ngemva kokuphuphunyelwa kwesisu, saba nezikhathi eziningi ezithusa kakhulu lapho kwakubonakala sengathi sizolahlekelwa yilo mntwana. Eshayela udokotela ngokuxhamazela, wayengishayela ucingo futhi angitshele, ukuthi uma kuzokwenzeka, akukho ababengakwenza ukukuvimba. Bese ngithunyelwa i-ultrasound ukuze ngibone ukuthi sisakhulelwe noma cha.
Ngalokhu kukhulelwa kokugcina ngathola ama-ultrasound angu-7. Ezine zazo ku-trimester yokuqala, bekungeyesibili enganginayo eyaba yimbi kakhulu… ubuchwepheshe abuzange busitshele lutho futhi asizange sibone ukuphaphazela okuncane (okwakuwukushaya kwenhliziyo) nalapho ngibuza ukuthi konke kwakuhamba kahle, impendulo yakhe yathi “Akumele sisho lutho, kufanele ulinde udokotela. “Ngokushesha kimina, njengomhlengikazi wangaphambili, lokho kwakusho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Akazange akuthole ukushaya kwenhliziyo, wabe esehamba eyolanda omunye umuntu ukuthi angene azozama. Angikwazanga nokubheka. Angikwazanga ukuba nomusa okwedlula uchwepheshe wesibili, okwazile ukuthola ukushaya kwenhliziyo futhi wabika ngenjabulo ukuthi umbungu ulungile.
“Engxenyeni ephakathi kuka-10 no-20 wamaphesenti okukhulelwa okwaziwayo agcina ephuphunyelwa yizisu. Ezimweni eziningi owesifazane angase aphuphunyelwe yisisu engazi nokuthi ukhulelwe. Kulinganiselwa ukuthi wonke amaqanda avundisiwe alahlekile.” (http://www.babble.com/miscarriage-pregnancy-health-causes-risks)
Ukuphuphunyelwa yizisu kuvamile, akusho ukuthi kulula. Kulungile ukuthi uzizwe ungokomzwelo, ulahlekelwe futhi udabuke. Kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume nothile ngendlela ozizwa ngayo, futhi ukhulume nochwepheshe bakho bezokwelapha mayelana nezingozi zakho.
Biography
UJennifer Shakeel ungumbhali futhi owayengumhlengikazi. Njengomama wezingane ezimbili ezimangalisayo, ngilapha ukuze ngihlanganyele nawe engikufundile mayelana nokuba umzali. Enye yezingane zami ine-ADD, uhambo lwethu lokufunda ukuze sibhekane nokuxilongwa kanye nokuthola ukuthi yini esisebenzela kangcono kube yinselele nenjabulo. Indodana yethu yatholwa cishe eminyakeni emibili nengxenye edlule, futhi siye saba nezikhathi ezimnandi nezimbi, injabulo nosizi. Uma nje ngingakunikeza usuku olulodwa lwethemba noma umbono owodwa ongasebenza ukukusiza wena nomndeni wakho ngiyazi ukuthi inhloso yami isifezekile.
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