Ukubeletha - Indlela Yokuqeda Ukwesaba Umsebenzi

nguPatricia Hughes

Isigaba sokugcina sokukhulelwa singabangela ukukhathazeka kwabesifazane abaningi. Ukwesaba umsebenzi kuyiqiniso. Ucwaningo olwenziwa eSweden ngo-2001 lwabonisa ukuthi ukwesaba kwaholela emithini eminingi esetshenziswa lapho belekwa. Lolu cwaningo lwenziwe komama okokuqala lwakhombisa ukuthi kudingeka izidakamizwa ezengeziwe kwabesifazane abakhombise ukwesaba ngaphambi nangesikhathi sokubeletha. Ukwesaba kungathatha izinhlobo eziningi, njengokwesaba okungaziwa, ubuhlungu noma ukwesaba okubangelwa ukuzwa izindaba ezisabekayo ezivela kubangani noma umndeni mayelana nokusebenza kanzima.

Eminyakeni yamuva nje ukwesaba umsebenzi kuye kwagxilwa kakhulu. Ngonyaka ka-2000, isihloko se-British Journal of Psychiatry sakhuluma ngalokhu kwesaba. Kuyaziwa ngokuthi i-tokophobia, noma ukwesaba ukubeletha. Lokhu kwesaba manje sekubhekwa njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ucwaningo okuxoxwe ngalo esihlokweni lwabonisa ukuthi ukwesaba kwaphumela ekwandeni kwezinsikazi zasebusuku nokuhlaselwa uvalo.

Ziningi izizathu ezenza abesifazane besabe ukuqashwa. Enye ukuthi [ikati-lekati]ukuzalwa kwengane[/ikati-lekati] kuvame ukufihlwa yimfihlakalo. Abesifazane abakhuli bebona imisebenzi noma izingane zizalwa. Ezizukulwaneni ezidlule, abantwana babezalelwa ekhaya. Abesifazane abasebasha babona izingane zakubo, abashana nabazala bezalwa kukho konke ukuphila kwabo. Lapho kufika isikhathi sokuthola umntwana, ayemancane amathuba okuba besabe inqubo. Abesifazane abasebasha namuhla babhekana nokwesaba okungaziwa lapho bekhulelwe. Kwabesifazane abaningi, ingane yabo ingowokuqala abazoyibona izalwa.

Kule minyaka eyikhulu edlule, ukuzalwa sekuphenduke umcimbi wezokwelapha. Kuwo wonke umlando wesintu, izingane zazizalelwa ekhaya kunombelethisi. Kusezizukulwaneni ezimbalwa ezedlule lapho ukuzalwa kusuke ekhaya kwayiswa esibhedlela. Indawo yezokwelapha enemishini, imisindo, iphunga nabasebenzi bezokwelapha ingase ibangele ukwesaba.

Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nokwesaba okungaziwa ukufunda ngokushikashikeka nokubeletha. Funda izincwadi mayelana nokuzalwa futhi uthathe ikilasi lokulungiselela ukubeletha. Ungakwazi ukuboleka izincwadi kubangani noma umtapo wolwazi. Lapho wazi okwengeziwe ngenqubo yokuzalwa, yilapho uyokwazi khona ukwethemba ngokwengeziwe ikhono lomzimba wakho lokubeletha.

Ithelevishini ibonisa ukuthi ukuveza [tag-ice]birth[/tag-ice] kungase kubonakale kuwumthombo omuhle wolwazi. Akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Eminye yale mibukiso ibonisa ukukhulelwa kanye nokuzalwa okunezinkinga ezinkulu. Bangase bakushiye uthukile futhi usaba kakhulu. Kungakwenza ucabange ukuthi konke ukuzalwa kuyinkimbinkimbi. Lokhu akunjalo futhi kuzokwenza ukhathazeke kungenasidingo. Buka amavidiyo aphakanyiswa uthisha wakho wokubeletha ukuze uthole umqondo omuhle wokuzalwa okuvamile.

Uma usufundile ngokuzalwa, dala uhlelo lokuzalwa. Uhlelo lwakho lokuzalwa luchaza okufunayo nalokho ofuna ukukugwema lapho ebeletha. Ukudala uhlelo lokuzalwa kungakusiza uzizwe unamandla okulawula. Lokhu kuvame ukusiza ekudambiseni ukwesaba. Xoxa ngohlelo lwakho lokuzalwa nodokotela wakho noma [tag-tec]midwife[/tag-tec]. Nikeza udokotela wakho, isibhedlela, umqeqeshi wakho wezabasebenzi amakhophi bese ulifaka esikhwameni sakho.

Bheka izindlela zokuqeda ukwesaba. Ikilasi le-hypnobirthing lingaba yisinqumo esihle uma wesaba ukusebenza. Le ndlela isebenzisa i-self hypnosis ukubhekana nobuhlungu lapho ebeletha. Kuyasiza ukukhulula ukwesaba futhi kukugcina ukhululekile. Lolu hlelo lunama-CD ekota ngayinye ozowajwayeza ekhaya. Sebenzisa ama-exercises okubukwayo nokuphumula ukusiza ukunciphisa ukwesaba futhi.