Siyakuhalalisela! Ngemva kwezinyanga zonke zokulinda, ingane yakho isize yafika. Izinsuku zakho zokukhulelwa seziphelile ekugcineni, futhi uhambo olusha olujabulisayo seluzoqala. Lezi zinsuku zokuqala ziyisikhathi esimangalisayo esidlula ngokushesha okukhulu. Lezi zinsuku zakuqala namaviki kufanele uwasebenzise ukuze wazi futhi uhlangane nengane yakho, wena nobaba. Ngokwemvelo, umndeni nabangane abaseduze bazofuna ukudlula ukuze babone ingane entsha. Nokho ungase ufune ukukhawulela ukuvakasha phakathi nesonto lokuqala noma ngaphezulu.
Zinakekele. Khumbula ukuthi usanda kuzalwa ingane. uzokhathala futhi udinga ukuphumula. Ungazami ukuba ngumama omkhulu futhi wenze izinto ezihlanya njengokuhlanza indlu nokupheka isidlo sakusihlwa esikhulu. Ngikholwe; unakho konke ukuphila kwakho kukho konke lokho. Njengamanje, udinga ukugxila ekuphumuleni nasekumazini ilungu elisha lomndeni wakho.
Ungalindi izivakashi zakho. Ngike ngezwa izindaba ezishaqisayo zomama abasanda kuzalwa bephekela inkampani ngesikhathi izivakashi zihlezi zibambe umntwana. Ungakwenzi lokhu. Vumela abantu bakusize ngokupheka nokuhlanza. Uma ogogo befuna ukuvakasha, kuzodingeka baphathe ukudla noma i-dust rag. Ukubamba ingane akulona usizo oludingayo. Kufanele uphumule kusofa noma esihlalweni esinyakazayo nomntwana kuyilapho abanye belungisa ukudla.
U-Baby uzochitha isikhathi sakhe esiningi elele futhi edla ezinsukwini zokuqala ekhaya. Izingane ezisanda kuzalwa zilala isikhathi esiningi, kodwa lokhu kuvame uchungechunge olude lokulala okufushane. Ingane izovuka idle njalo ngehora noma amabili, uma incela ibele. Kungcono kakhulu enganeni nasekunikezeni ubisi lwakho ukuthi uyondle ingane uma idingeka. Ngemva kokunceliswa ngakunye, umntwana cishe uzophinde alale.
Kungase kuthathe izinsuku ezimbalwa, noma amasonto, ukuze ingane ikwazi ukuzinza kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lwendlela yokuncelisa noma yokulala engabikezelwa. Lokhu kujwayelekile kakhulu futhi esinye isizathu sokubambezela inkampani. Udinga ukulala lapho ingane yakho ilele, njengoba ulahlekelwa ubuthongo ebusuku. Kancane kancane, umntwana uzozinza ephethini yokulala ebikezelwe futhi alale isikhathi eside. Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, udinga ukuphumula lapho uthola ithuba.
Ungase uthole ukuthi isimo sakho sengqondo siyashintsha noma uba nezikhathi zokudabuka. Ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzizwe ucindezelekile futhi ukhathele. Lokhu kwaziwa ngokuthi i-baby blues futhi kuvamile ngokuphelele. Inhlanganisela yokushintsha ama-hormone kanye nokuntuleka kokulala kunomthelela ekuzizweni kancane okwesibhakabhaka. Kunezinto ongazenza ukuze uzizwe ungcono, njengokulala, ukukhuluma nomngane noma ukuhambahamba ngaphandle.
Naka imizwa yakho ngalesi sikhathi. Uma imizwa yakho yokudabuka idlula ukuzizwa uphansi kancane, ungase ube nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha. Izimpawu ze-PPD zihlanganisa imizwa yokucindezeleka, ukukhala njalo, ukuntula isithakazelo enganeni noma eminye imisebenzi eyayijatshulelwa ngaphambili, imizwa yokwesaba kanye nezinguquko endleleni yokulala noma yokudla. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungase ube nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, shayela udokotela wakho. Ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane bakhathazeka ngokuthi imizwa yabo ibenza babe omama ababi. Akukho okungaba ngaphezu kweqiniso. I-PPD yisimo esivamile esidinga ukwelashwa.
Manje njengoba ususinyathelweni esilandelayo sokukhula kwengane yakho, qiniseka ukuthi uhlola yethu Baby futhi Ukukhulisa izingxenye zesizindalwazi sethu ukuze uthole iseluleko nolwazi lwengane yakho esakhula.
UPatricia Hughes ungumbhali ozisebenzelayo nomama wezingane ezine. UPatricia uneziqu zeBachelor in Elementary Education azithola eFlorida Atlantic University. Ubhale kabanzi ngokukhulelwa, ukubeletha, ukukhulisa izingane kanye nokuncelisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubhale mayelana nokuhlotshiswa kwekhaya kanye nokuhamba.
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