nguJennifer Shakeel
Elinye lawona maxesha anomdla ebomini bomfazi kukuba ngumama. Usenokutyekela ekubhaleni ukukhulelwa kwakho, ngakumbi ukuba oku kukuqala. Oku kunokukhokelela abafazi abaninzi ukuba babuze ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza oku. Impendulo ngokwenene iya kuxhomekeka kuwe. Ukuba uluhlobo lobugcisa ungakonwabela ukuhlanganisa incwadi yescrapbook. Ukuba awunalo ixesha okanye umnqweno wokudala into ecacileyo, ukubhala kunye nokubhala iingcinga zakho kwidayari kunokuba sisitayile sakho. Okanye usenokugqiba kwelokuba nizenze zombini!
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ijenali yakho yokukhulelwa / i-scrapbook yahlukile ke incwadi yomntwana. Oku kuya kuba konke ngawe. Kuxhomekeka xa ukhulelwe xa uqala le projekthi ngokwenene kuya kuxhomekeka kwindlela eneenkcukacha ngayo incwadi yakho. Umzekelo ukuba uqala oku ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba ufumanise ukuba ukhulelwe ungafaka umfanekiso wakho phambi kokuba isisu siqale, mhlawumbi nekopi yovavanyo lokukhulelwa okanye iziphumo zovavanyo. Mna ngokwam, ndikhetha ijenali, kodwa ndiza kukunika iingcebiso ezintandathu ezikhawulezayo malunga nendlela yokuyila inkumbulo yakho yokukhulelwa egqibeleleyo.
Ingcebiso yokuqala: Qala kwangethuba kunoko emva kwethuba.
Sonke siyathanda ukukholelwa ukuba asinakuze silibale nantoni na malunga nokukhulelwa kwethu, ngakumbi ukuba kukuqala. Nangona kunjalo, yithathe kum, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhumbule amaxesha amakhulu kwaye ulibale zonke ezincinci ezibalulekileyo. Umzekelo uya kuthi mhlawumbi ukhumbule usuku lokuqala lwexesha lakho lokugqibela, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kukhumbula ukuba wafumanisa njani ukuba ukhulelwe, kodwa umhla uya kuba nzima kancinane. Ukuba ufuna ukukhumbula yonke into ngaloo mini yibhale phantsi ngokukhawuleza. Uya kumangaliswa ukuba iinyanga ezimbalwa ziya kwenza ntoni kwinkumbulo yakho.
Icebiso lesibini: Thatha iMifanekiso
Nokuba uyi-scrapbooking okanye i-journaling, imifanekiso iya kunceda ukukhumbula iinkumbulo kwaye ziya kunceda ukuthetha into ongenakuyifumana ngayo amagama. Umzekelo mhla uthenga into yakho yokuqala yomntwana, mna nomyeni wam sakhala nakwiyeyesithathu, ngamanye amaxesha ukuyibeka ngamazwi kuthatha ixesha. Umfanekiso onesihloko esikhawulezayo nangona utsho konke ngaphandle kokuwonakalisa.
Icebiso Lesithathu: Nyaniseka
Nam ngokwam ndiyayihleka le ngcebiso, kodwa ngokwenene ilungile. Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ngokwenene udala le ncwadi kuwe kwaye mhlawumbi ngenye imini xa umntwana wakho ekhule ngokupheleleyo kwaye elungiselela ukuba nomntwana wabo wokuqala uya kumnika le ncwadi, ngoko nyaniseka. Ukugula kwasekuseni… akukho mnandi. Ukutyeba… akukho mnandi. Kuya kubakho iintsuku apho ubuza ukuba kutheni emhlabeni uthathe isigqibo sokwenza oku, kwaye ndithembe ukuba uya kufumana isikhumbuzo esikhawulezileyo kodwa kufanelekile ukurekhodwa. Uya kuhleka xa ujonga ngasemva uze uyifunde kwaye umntwana wakho uya kuxabisa ukuba onke amathandabuzo kunye nemibuzo kunye neemvakalelo anazo.
Ingcebiso yesine: Bandakanya lonke ulwazi
Bhala phantsi iimpawu zokuqala oye wazifumana kwaye nini. Yintoni oyenzileyo ukuze ubasuse. Zilinganise ukuze ugcine umkhondo wendlela okhula ngayo. Ukuqala kwakho ukuva umntwana eshukuma. Gcina umkhondo wotyelelo lukagqirha kunye nento oyifundileyo okanye oyivileyo okanye oyibonileyo kolo tyelelo.
Ingcebiso yesihlanu: Faka iMifanekiso ye-Ultrasound ngaphakathi
Kuxhomekeka kwimeko yakho ungaphela une ultrasound ngaphezulu ke enye, ngenxa yokukhulelwa kwam okwesithathu ndiye ndane 7. Thatha ezo pics kunye noxwebhu iintsana ukukhula ngaphakathi kuwe. Kumnandi ukujonga emva kwezo xa umntwana ephumile. Iphepha lokuqala kwi-albhamu yeefoto zabantwana bam bobabini linikezelwe kumfanekiso wabo we-ultrasound, njengokuba kuya kuba njalo neyesithathu.
Icebiso lesithandathu: Thatha iShowa yomntwana
Enye yezivumelwano ezinkulu zokukhulelwa yi-Baby Shower. Qinisekisa ukuba ugcina ikopi yesimemo, uluhlu lweendwendwe, imidlalo edlalwayo, ukutya, izipho, indlela oziva ngayo ngexesha lokuhlamba umntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha xa ukhulelwe loo hormone iyakhaba kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba izinto ezisileyo zikwenza ube neemvakalelo kakhulu. Bhala malunga nayo, yifake kwi-scrapbook okanye kwijenali yakho.
Oku kukukhulelwa kwakho, kubalulekile ukuba uyilandele nokuba ufuna. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba yi-scrapbook, idayari, okanye ijenali injongo kukukunceda ukhumbule ukuba bekunjani. Uya kufumanisa ukuba kuya kuba neentsuku ezinzima njengomama omtsha, xa uya kuzibuza ukuba kutheni uyenzile le nto, xa ukhathazekile, xa uphantsi ... kungathatha iminyaka embalwa kwaye xa uqala ukucinga malunga nokuba okanye hayi uzophinda ubenomnye umntana. Kuzo zonke ezi meko ukukwazi ukuphuma loo magazini okanye i-scrapbook kwaye ukhumbule ukuba kuhle kangakanani ukukhulelwa.
Ndicinga ukuba yayingu-Erma Bombeck owathetha kakuhle xa wafumanisa ukuba wayebulawa ngumhlaza. Wenze uludwe lwezinto awayeza kuzenza ukuba wayenethuba lokuphila ubomi bakhe phezu koko wayeza kutshintsha. Enye yezinto ebomini awayenqwenela ukuphila ngayo atshintshe indlela awayephila ngayo, yayikukumitha.
Nantsi into awayemele ayithethe, “Endaweni yokunqwenela iinyanga ezilithoba zokukhulelwa, ndandiwuxabise umzuzu ngamnye kwaye ndaqonda ukuba ukumangala okukhulayo ngaphakathi kwam yayilelona thuba lokunceda uThixo ngommangaliso ebomini.
UJennifer Shakeel ngumbhali kunye nomongikazi owayesakuba ngumongikazi oneminyaka engaphezu kwe-12 yamava ezonyango. Njengomama wabantwana ababini abamangalisayo onomnye osendleleni, ndilapha ukuze ndibelane nani ngezinto endizifundileyo malunga nokuba ngumzali kunye nolonwabo kunye neenguqu ezenzeka ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Sikunye sinokuhleka kwaye sikhale kwaye sivuyiswe kukuba singomama!
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